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Nanny who no longer want someone kids
I have been a nanny for the past year! I have to say that this is a raw deal,they are not even mine and I can't cope. During the week I find myself flying down the highway in the rush to get these rats out of the car and my life ASAP!! It's really a blessing that I got to do this as now I can see what parenting is REALLY all about.Never in my life did I think I could be so angry, miserable and tried. Sleeping in is just a no no in the week and I can only imagine how much more brutal it is not having that for your weekends. Children feel neglected in a blink of an eye, it hurts to hear my kids say "I forgot I had parents" after the weekend because mommy and daddy where just not interested in entertaining them. It's really been an eye opening experience for me and I will be getting my tubes tied when I get home. Yes blah blah I am 24 and could change my mind but you know what? I don't think I will. If you know yourself then these decisions are not taken lightly. Kids are NOT! In the cards for me. I would be depressed without my weekends off and that's a fact. These buggers are not worth my sanity, life, time and resources. ** to the freaking no to kids.
When I made the choice the relief was profound! No anxiety about finding a partner the right age so his not 50 when the kid is 10,about marriage or my career! Just discovered how much time I have on my hands!! Yaaaay I couldn't be happier.
I have 1 kid. Greatest and the suckiest come together. Would I have one if I had a second chance. ?
No doubt yes. The ** part for you is that its not your kid. And you dont get to enjoy the blessings of being a parent. Only the misery. I dont blamb you for feeling this way.
A part of me wants a couple more. The other part dont want to go through this again.
What are the "blessings" of a kid that you churned out yourself? Why does that make it oh so different, but the miseries are universal?
Mad respect for a woman who sees reality, and not being brainwashed
Here we go again. No new confessions. My addiction here is being killed by frustration
^yep^..... i really hate this place now......
I dunno. Sometimes it seems like it's the same five or six boring old confessions, repackaged over and over again. But although you see more of this kind of confession here than you do just about anywhere else, it's still more genuine and less done to death than other topics on this site.
My wife and I were believers in corporal punishment. Our kids are well behaved. The nanny initially thought we were bad and was actually going to report us when she found out. We asked her to just stay for a month and see. She ended up staying for over 5 years. We gave her permission to discipline the kids and that really made it far less stressful for her.
Amen, sister! Children are overrated pieces of **.
I think you may need a new job.
I could not be a nanny either but some people really love it.
Go find something you love.
Oh my time Is almost up with the job, thank God! It's not even that, I love people and every job I have ever had involved people which is my fav part. I just don't like little people. Plain am done simple
You certainly have the right -- and ability -- to make your own choices, but I will tell you (from my own experience) that it makes a difference when the children are yours. Yes, there are frustrations and obstacles, and there is much fatigue, but when the children come from you, it's just different. Don't do anything you can undo for a few years, and just see how you feel then. Best wishes.
^Agree. I did some part time nanny work when I was going to college. The kids were fine, actually. But to do it as a FT job, I could see that being a stressful job because as a nanny you are hired to entertain. But when they are yours it is a different story. Now married, we planned for our children. And it is different when they are your own. Not saying is trouble free, they have their moments. But we have pretty well behaved kids. They are kids, but I will not allow them to run around in a department store or restaurant. Just remember that if you don't want children, that is entirely your choice. But be honest with your partners from the get go. Having children or not having children isn't something you can compromise on. And you are still relatively young and certainly not ready or in the position to have a family. So live your life, get your career on track and just be open because you never know what the future holds.
^totally true^
Kids are 100 times greater and a 100 times harder than one can imagine. I would be a wealthy man if not for the expense of them. Our are grown and gone. I have no clue how we did it all and there was no help of a nanny in our home.