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Do people hate older men with younger women?
I was watching Dr Phil, the episode where a 22 yr old had married her friend's 58 yr old dad. Not for money, they seemed average. But they got a LOT of hate comments like, "gross why is she with him?" do people really think that? My husband is 30 yrs older than me, I'm 25. It's not that I really care what anyone thinks, I just wonder how people truly respond to us when we go out in public. Is everyone really thinking 'ew?' If so I'm going to start making out with him in public
Thank you so much! One thing I want to know-did you ever have trouble getting him to take you out? I'm not a party animal or anything, but it's like pulling teeth to get him to take me out to dinner! I know he's just at a different stage in life than me, and I understand, but sometimes it's frustrating! Did you have this problem?
You will always be at different stages in your life. The key is for you to take one step forward and him take one step back. I never had any problems getting him to take me out. He loves going out for dinner and date night. What I did have problems with was getting him to go on vacation. By the time we got together he had already been in the army and seen half the world. He didn't want to travel at first. He took steps back. We compromised and started going on small vacations. Weekend get aways. Now we go on week long vacations. I like to think that is what keeps him young. He still has some medical issues. I have spent time in the hospital when he was sick. I guess that is the steps forward I have to take.
Thank you so much. That's another thing I'm terrified of. I of course have dreams of him dying a little over a hundred so I could be in my 80s, because I really can't imagine living without him. But I know that odds are one day he's going to have a heart attack, and it's going to be me, terrified, trying to save him. How do you deal with worries like that?
You can't worry about that. If you do it will consume your life and you will never live. I assume my husband will die before me. I don't know that for sure though. I could get hit by a car tomorrow and die. You just never know.
There are little tricks that can help though. One trick is to think of your age and age differences as percentage instead. The older you get the higher percentage you are. Two people who are the same age would be 100%. Figure your percentage for when you first met and now. See, you are gaining on him.
Sorry it took me this long to reply, but tthank you so much for your kind words. You are very encouraging. I wish you the best in your marriage!!