We sent my mothers father a christmas card this year. My moms parents divorced when she was sixteen. Her dad disapeared and dosowned his children. He sent us back a letter. At the end of the letter his closing was "I love you, always remember that, Grandpa". But I am sorry sir, I do not believe that. I have never thought of that man as grandpa and I never will. He had thirty five years to try and reconcile with his family, and he never did. That man is not my grandpa.