Is it possible he doesn’t realize he is a cuckold?

Our relationship has always been very honest. We tell each other everything, life goals, joys and fears. I was single and he was in the midst of a divorced when we met. We got to know each other and we clicked and married after about a year of dating.
After a couple of years, finally more of our previous love life came up. I told him I had a three of previous relationship and they were all passing fancies. It was actually about 12, I just thought three would make him feel better. Then I asked him. He was shy at first but he told me that he had 5 previous girlfriends and of course his ex-wife.
He told me everything. His honesty just poured out. He said that all his previous girlfriends and his first wife cheated and relatively openly. I was shocked.
He seemed to need to tell me more so I asked him to be specific. So he told me every detail of his cheating girlfriends and ex-wife, a very hot large-breasted redhead, who I knew before I married him. I saw her with other men in bars and at a private house party with a tall, well built, well as they say tall, dark and handsome man who was a bass player in a very popular local jazz band.
I was really amazed and really curious. So I asked more about them and how they accomplished their escapades. He went into every specific detail including the fact that he watched a few times secretly when he caught them at home a couple of times. I even asked him to tell me how he felt about it. I really did not need to ask. It was obvious considering how turned on he got relating it all. We made incredibly hot love that night while I continued to ask more questions.
Is this normal? I've read about cuckolds. Is it possible he doesn’t realize he is a cuckold? Funny thing is that his story really got to me too. Does he want me to be like them and cheat too?
The thing is, I would never leave him. I now believe it would be great if he willingly gave me permission or even better, willingly asked me to explore and approve of my complete sexual independence.

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  • I see a divorce in your future.

  • I would be very careful , don't read into his story about all the women who have cheated on him. You seem to think he liked being cheated on , like some kind of dominated slave. I also noticed you want him to ask you to do the same thing to him as well. Is that what you want for him , to continue the cycle of cuckolding and cheating ? Do you want to dominate him as well ? You and he need to sit down and do lots of talking and find out what you want, good luck.

  • Just because he told you of his ex’s cheating doesn’t mean he wants you to as well. But it does sound as if it turned you on and you will cheat even if he doesn’t give you permission. It seems as if it turns you on just by hearing of his ex’s promiscuity. This may be the reason they are his ex’s. Because he doesn’t want to share.

  • You need to talk to him more. When he tells you about his cheating exwife ask him if it turns him on to think about it. Just talk it out. It may be a while or even weeks but you'll soon figure out if he's into it. Talk to him while making love by asking if he would like to share you. You'll know by his reaction. I'm a cuckold. I talked my wife into dating other men. She loves it and so do I. If you want that life you need to communicate. Good luck and if he agrees, never do it behind his back and always tell him the details about your dates.

  • Yes he can be. I was a cuckold and didn't know it. H*** I didn't even know what the term meant. Then I found out the wife was f****** her first boyfriend for over a year . I didn't know what a cuckold was. Then I did some research on the subject. I like the idea or thinking about her getting f***** by men with bigger d****. I was a cuckold for sure and had no clue. She knew I was one but didn't let me in on the secret. Thank you honey I love you baby. Hope you enjoy lots of big hard c****.

  • My boyfriend asks about my ex's sometimes when we're having s**, I think some guys enjoy it.

  • It's that he doesn't know he is a cuckloid. I too didn't know. I met my wife when she was a virgin at 17. 17 years later
    (married with 2 kids )she had an fling with her brothers the time I didn't know what a cuckloid was, but when I found out she had this fling. I wasn't mad but SUPER turned on. I was so happy for her. She found her sexual independence. No more lies, no more pretending to be something we weren't. Our trust and s** life exploded. I would ask her about her experiences and the honestly was overpowering. She saw this man for four years. Never once did we speak about divorce.

    In the past five years she has been with eight other men. It's not that she doesn't love me or that I'm not good inbed.( We have s** five times a week) it's just as you said, she needs sexual independence and that includes being with different. Yes, I guess I am a cuckloid.. no regrets

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