Eleven months ago I was at a business convention in another state where I met a much younger pre-op trans girl and fell in love with her. We have grown our relationship to the point where we are discussing marriage. But there is this problem and we disagree. She wants to go ahead with the operation but I do NOT want her to do that: I want her just as she is now. I'm sure other couples have dealt with this issue and I'm just wondering how they resolved it. We're not in a rush because I still have to divorce my wife which will take six months once it begins. The girl and I see each other about every other week whether she comes here or I go there. I love her and I think she loves me too. At least she says so.