I'm A Lesbian and I Might Be In Love With A Guy (Serious Post)

I'm a 22 year old Lesbian, and I've never been sexually attracted to men. Since I was young I never had interest in guys, and I had my sexual awakening when I was 12, when I went down on a friend out of curiosity. Throughout my teenage years I would date women in secret. At 19 I came out to my mom and she accepted me, while my homophobic dad continues to have no idea.

Long story short, I met a guy ~8 months ago. He and I had an instant friendship connection, and he quickly (within the first 3 or 4 months of chatting) admitted that he had strong romantic feelings for me. He knows that I'm a Lesbian so he was fully prepared for me to tell him to f*** off. But we were good friends at that point, so I kinda said something along the lines of "We'll talk about it later."

He's gotten more stubborn and affectionate since then. It's starting to rub off on me, and it has made me do some serious contemplation. My conclusion is that I might be emotionally attracted to him. I feel like he is my soul mate, but not in a sexual sense. I would consider marrying him even - but the fact that I'm a Lesbian still stands. I would never have s** with him, kiss him in a serious way, or have kids with him. But at the same time, I think I love him?

I've told him this already and he explained that we have a options. The first one being that we enter a platonic non-sexual relationship. Move in together, have a cat or two, maybe adopt a kid - the whole shebang. Or second, we become polyamorous and I date outside our circle. I'm rather split on the situation. I'm not the poly type, but I've been thinking about it, and I'm tempted to give it a shot.

So yeah, all in all, I might be in love with a guy! :)

Oct 5, 2021

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  • You are honest, but don't tie him to the relationship you describe. It is a train wreck waiting to happen. Just be the greatest of friends. Do not involve children in the equation either. As time goes by perhaps your feelings will change and you two may be perfect for each other. As an official "old fart" I recommend you put a lot of time on this before you commit to anything.

  • Thanks for your honesty. It is refreshing to read of someone who is trying to figure things out. Sometimes I think schools, counselors, and society in general are in too big a rush to determine sexuality and attach all sorts of rights, decisions, and issues to it. It seems like we have to label things too soon. It also feels like we ignore the process of becoming adults and incorporating a mass of perceptions, ideas, questions, and possible answers to the process. I'm only 68 years old and I still have no definitive answers by which to judge others. God bless you kiddo. Put a little time into your thoughts and feelings right now. Time is a good healer when you are conflicted. You sound like a thinker who will develop some good answers.

  • Follow your feelings.
    I was raised by strict religious parents that taught me to be attracted to the opposite s**. I discovered in middle school that I liked girls. Thankfully, my teacher and principal had a talk with my parents. The told my mom and dad that they were wrong to raise me to only like 'boys' and I have rights.
    I rebelled and strictly dated girls until recently.
    I'm 26 and met a guy at work and he's the first guy I had s** with.
    I told him I'm into him but I still have emotions for girls. One of my ex-gf's found out about the guy at work. She's been blowing up my facebook account. I'm processing my new relationship right now.

  • I’m 50 and been married for 25 years. I was a s*** in HS and college. But settled down with my husband and have not been with another man since our wedding night.

    However, when my son was very young about 15 years ago a relationship I had with one of the moms in our play group turned sexual. We have been enjoying each other ever since.

    About 10 years ago we invited my husband into our relationship as her husband had ED and it was obvious that she and my husband found each other attractive.

    My marriage and love life have never been better.

    The crazy thing is that now I most enjoy watching my husband have s** with my female lover and I crave the time I spend with her after she has s** with my husband.

    The fact is women are NOT made to love only men. We are made to enjoy men and love each other

  • As a mature woman at age 50 who has been married for 25 years with 3 children I can tell you that it is perfectly normal for a woman to enjoy both sexes.

    As a matter of fact, I would say that if a woman claims to to be only interested in one gender she either is out right telling you a lie or she has never had the opportunity to spend a night with both a man and another woman

  • Oooooooooh i'm a scatologist i like to eat s*** literally. I'll suck my own d*** after I'm done suckkkking it hooooooooooo!

  • Make the decision that fits you. Who knows, you might even come to enjoy "friend s**" that's not about s** but is about being very good friends.


  • Nothing new here.
    I was a LUG (Lesbian until graduation) in college and had a two year relationship. BTW: We're still besties.
    Looking back, I was actually a b**** to guys that were brave enough to ask for my number.
    Two years after graduation, I was single and met a guy at work. Again, looking back I was a kinda of a b**** to him at first.
    Long story short, we got married this past May.
    For some people, experimenting is a phase and for some people it's a time to figure out whom they really are.


  • Being lesbian is a term that says, I prefer to be with women. It does not say you cannot develop feeling for a man. It's just when you go out to date etc... your eye is on women and you generally don't consider the men.
    Now, you have a close relationship with this guy. And at the end of the day, being close, admiring and respecting each other, having things in common, can lead to deep feelings you did not expect. The deeper the feelings, the deeper the expression of that, s** might be an outcome.
    A friend of mine developed this sort of relationship, but she fully committed to it, s** and all. All in. She loved and admired him as a person. And he does ltell her to s** with women on occasion, but she won't. Now if he died, she would not seek another M/F relationship. That's where you're different, and that's not fair to him.
    Frankly he feels he's converting you. And you're not telling him you wouldn't have s**, have kids, your friends, close but no cigar. If you were feeling so-so about this, I would say give him a chance, but you're not.

    He wants a lot more than your willing to give, he will push and push until he becomes an ass, your friends. Leave it there, don't bring other people into it. It's not fair to them either. A lesbian woman you might be "poly" with should not have to contend with this. Again, if you were into him and had feeling like the woman above, maybe. But I say no. the temptation will be to complicated.

  • Then you are not a lesbian! You are heterosexual. When going through child hood and puberty a lot of changes occur and you brain is confused. After a while things calm down and you finally can think straight. All this gender changing that they are allowing children to go through is wrong. They need to grow u and then make a decision. Thats why the suicide rate in transgender is so high.

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  • Back in college, I had a two bedroom apartment, so I rented one out to help with the bills. The woman was also in college, two years ahead of me and also a lesbian which I didn't know at first. After awhile, I become more or less furniture because she would come out of out shower alcove to dry off, I did the same, so seeing each other nude was nothing. The bad part was, she was gorgeous and no way could I get anywhere with her, the one time I mentioned something a little naughty damn near started a fistfight. I did attend her wedding, yep, to the same woman she was always with, we crazily stayed close friends if that makes any sense.


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