I enjoy pantyhose and **

I have always enjoyed seeing women in pantyhose. Their ** legs and often open toe sandals were a great turn on. (I'm a product of the 1980's). When I married I loved my wife wearing pantyhose. She knew this before we ever were married. Now we have been married for 37 years and my pantyhose obsession has progressed from her wearing them to me. And now I have a ** fetish. I like being ** and relenquishing my control over to my partner. My wife is NOT turned on with pantyhose or **. I told her that if she didn't want to wear pantyhose that I would. That worked for several years. But she still has problems with the ** and her being in control. We have invested 37 years into this marriage, have two children, and deeply love each other. How can we continue? Do I need to forgo my "turn-ons"? I have asked her what her turn on's are and have done everything she suggested. I do not want our love to ever lessen. Please help me set my marriage right and satisfy my partner. She wants someone strong and "in charge", but I perfer her to be in charge. Can't we just swap back and forth? I have suggested this but she refuses. I do not want my marriage to end. She is truly my Soul mate. There is no one else in this world for me. What can I do"?