can't stop letting everything I do be interrupted
My wife is working through a lot of old, major, destructive issues in her life, but as she does more and more of my time is sucked into passively supporting her. Years ago I tried chopping things out of my schedule to make time for us to do things together. It didn't work. Instead I spend more and more time doing things I don't care about, just so I don't have to drop anything important when she needs emotional support. On top of that, in the past couple years people have dropped several major crises in her lap and she's had health problems that suck up any energy either of us has left.
I need to figure out how to start insisting that I need time for myself, and we need to plan time to do things together, instead of just constantly being on call for emotional backup.