I have always been very controlling of my wife. Long before I had even heard the words coercive control.
What I knew was I enjoyed the control I had over her. I especially liked to control her clothing.
Very early in our relationship, I remember taking her to a shop that just sold bras and **. I said to the shop assistant that we were looking for matching bra and briefs.
The shop assistants would take my wife into the change room to change but then she'd come out and the shop assistants and I would discuss the look and the fit and I'd make Th he choice. My wife was like the model.