I can't hold this in anymore.

I am in love with my best friend. He's funny, he's cute and nerdy, he's REALLY smart...he is everything any girl would want in a guy. And...he has feelings for me too.
But...I'm in a relationship. And my boyfriend is his best friend as well. It's always been the three of us. My boyfriend has always been jealous of how close me and my best friend are...because they've been growing apart.
My best friend is always there for me. He tells me I'm beautiful every day, and that all he wants is for me to be happy.
I love my boyfriend. But, he doesn't treat me well. He's always yelling at me or putting me down or insulting me. Then the next day, he apologizes, and is the sweetest guy in the world.
Now I know everyone's first reaction is going to be, "WHAT THE H*** ARE YOU DOING. GO AFTER YOUR BEST FRIEND."
But...I love my boyfriend to the point where I don't want to lose him.
But I can't keep hurting my best friend.
But I don't want to hurt my boyfriend.
But I hate how he treats me.
But I don't want to look like a b****. I mean, come on, dating your boyfriend's best friend? That's got to be one of the bitchiest thongs you can do.
But...I want to be happy. I just don't know what will make me happy...
Help.

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  • MAKE A CHOICE!!! u cant have both of them in your life. If you choose 1 , drop the other 1 COMPLETELY!!! Feelings dont go away , especially if that person is in your face all the time. Its easier to deal with heartbreak than it is to deal with REGRET!

  • well who cares these days what people think...sit down and tlak to them sepertly! and maybe u can be with ur best friend just tell ur boyfriend u dont wanna lose him out of ur life because u love him being in it!...SOMETIMES change is goo

  • First and foremost, you need to be with someone who treats you well all the time. Your bf sounds really immature. That behavior can escalate or just beats you down until you start to believe it. Of course, only you can make this decision. You really can have it all. You can find a guy (maybe your best friend) who loves you for you, who thinks you are perfect the way you are and is NICE!

    Considering your bf's temper/attitude. Should you decide to end it..It may be best to wait awhile before you start up with your best friend. But you can it's not working for you.

  • Don't even think about it, but close your eyes right now and answer this question: If someone asked you if you were in love and who you wanted to be with forever, who appears in your mind, IMMEDIATELY? Whoever you see, is who you should truly be with.

  • You need to sit down and consider the pros and cons. who do you see yourself growing old and happy with. Choose that one.

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