I hate my step daughter

The fat ** were the center of the universe, until I came along. The youngest didn’t like me because I was being loved her father and she no longer had a say- she had too much of a say opinion on how things would what color walls- just too much almost like a wife. I have been fight for a place of importance of years and years. She wanted to be her fathers everything- no she finally gets it! I think, she has no choice. 10 years later and one child she has no choice. They no longer live with us they only did for short period of time. They are fine now. Thank god! But I feel like it took a lot of me to get my presence know and stablished. It killed the l both the little fat ** but the little one was worst. It really hurt hurt her and I’m glad, I’m still does and they both resent me still we don’t talk we don’t see each other maybe once a year or two time while crossing ways at best. They don’t come over, if he wants to see them he has to go out and do so somewhere else outside our home! Yes! Our home! We have a home that’s ours and we no longer live I. His home pre-me! No holidays are spent with them at all. We have become his priority now. I for pregnant by accident or may NOT with one child In Order to hurt them, and it did hurt th youngest one for sure. I stablished my presence with our child. All vacation are ours they never come or are even invited, they’ve never been invited to our child birthday parties or any functions at all. And they will never be either. He’s ask for MY opinion NOW! No more theirs. Or the youngest. They both have miserable lives now. Struggle with emotional issues and the mess they’ve created for themselves( their father refers to as WT) I enjoy their struggles from afar and laugh at their pain. I actually do enjoy it! It’s payback for the fights the caused for the times him I fought over their nasty disrespect behavior and controlling.

Uh... What?

You are toxic and I hope your "husband" escapes and kicks you out of their home. How dare you feel proud about breaking up a family you ** demon

Shut the ** up little ** instigator. This forum is for women like us who had their whole worlds turned unnecessarily upside down. I too laugh when I hear things like that. My SD came about after 20 years of us together-now 35. It took alot to forgive him but that doesn't mean i"m obligated to love his kid or not react when the fucken nightmare visits. She is 16 and stiull sits on daddy's lap trying to french kiss him and wants him to come into the bathroom to wipe her ** cuz "I may not have gotten it all daddy" or "Daddy I got my period" and drop her pants to look at a ** pad or pull her dad outside to see mom when she picks her up. "Daddy I want you to kiss mommy on the lips right now." As the ** stretches her head out the car window-lips pursed. My husband refused. POW! SD punches him in the face. Don't comment until you've been there ** and NO she isn't autistic or dev delayed. She's a spoiled POS

I kicked my stepdaughter out, threw her ** out, & I continue to torment her by always being around her dad. She knows I despise her, & yet her dad always has me around and sleeps with me. She must feel betrayed, & she is clearly depressed. She deserves it. So do you.

Right on! Karma will bite all these horrific step-kids right in the **, eventually. They deserve to be miserable.

Couldn’t agree more!! My only wish for my teenage step kids is that their adult life is as miserable as they have made mine the past 10 years. Assuming that they ever leave home (I’m not sure they ever will as mommy does EVERYTHING for them) they are in for a rude awakening from a world that will not tolerate their **.

AMEN!! Personally I just want to live long enough to see my stepdaughter have a miserable adult life! If anyone deserves it she does! She has made my wife and I miserable for years now with her teenage ** and her “I AM THE CENTER OF THE UNIVERSE” attitude. The funniest thing about the step kids on here that complain about stepparents is the fact that “Bio” mom or dad want these misfits gone and out of the house as bad as the stepparents do…😂…You kids (step kids) don’t have a ** clue what a pain in EVERYONES ** that you are but chances are that you will one day when you have your own step kids to deal with. On behalf of stepparents everywhere I hope YOUR step kids make YOUR life as miserable as YOU have made ours…👍

You sound like a real nut job, sicko, jealous bitter person. Get help. That might be easier said than done. No ethical shrink would tolerate your sick mind. Prognosis: poor.

Why should anyone have to tolerate a disrespectful guest in their own home? Your home, your rules. Husband should explain that to his daughter, and back you, 100%. That's only reasonable. If you invited people into your home that disrespected him, would he (or you) tolerate this? He shouldn't tolerate disrespect from his daughter towards you. If he feels he has to choose his daughter over you, let him, them choose yourself over him and get a divorce!

It was theirs before hers. She should learn her role and it isn't having control over someone else's children. After all they chose to be with a man who already had a family.

I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I NEVER want to control my step-**. I want her to disappear. It's unfortunate that she was ever born.

We can't turn back time in order to prevent a stepchild's existence.
It's a nice fantasy (I'd love it if they were never born), but it can't be done.

Just breathe, focus on the positive, & try to avoid having to interact with the step-monsters as much as possible. Keep communication brief but friendly. Trust that the ** stepchildren of the world will be punished by karma.

I bet that kid never even lived in their house her house is her mom's so stfu

I feel for this poor woman. My 25 year old stepdaughter just moved in with us. This girl does not work and on top of that thinks she is too good to work retail or customer service. So what? I am supposed to work 50 plus hours a week and feed your lazy ** while you sit around and do absolutely NOTHING? She is rude and not very nice to me. I have been good to her and have always stuck up for her when others have not. But I am over it. Get a life and figure your life out. This is MY house as much as my husband's and we both have say in what happens her. I believe in helping people but come on, you have got to help yourself at some point. Cut the strings.

You need to understand that you were the one who forced your way into the relationship. After what was probably a difficult divorce, he married you, and now you're trying to act like you're her mother. You want to police the way that she interacts with her OWN FATHER. If you don't like her, then you can leave her life, but understand that she has the right to stay around her father, and hence, your house. You don't have the right to ban her from the house that her father lives in. You're the **, honestly.

You didn't force your way into anything. You were having a relationship with someone you love. The people on this site are out of order. If someone, anyone comes into your home and makes you uncomfortable you can ask them to leave. The father can go and meet her somewhere else!! I feel for you x

If its her house then she has the right to deny somebody who treats her like trash into it.

You've clearly got no idea with such a stupid response!

Omg, read what she wrote! She didn't BAN her from the house, she just said if she can't be polite or civil to her not to come around, and I completely agree with the writer!

The second wife did not force herself on the guy ... his marriage ended in divorce and the child needs to accept that and the new partner ... betcha the ex-wife is exercising parental alienation .. tough on the guy, but it's his baggage and he needs to tell his daughter to behave

The f*ck she is. Its HER HOUSE or at the very least, ONE HALF HER HOUSE. F*ck that little b*tch. Show her the door.

No. She doesn’t have to invite this bully into her home. I have a 35-yr old psychopath for a stepdaughter. I have tried for 8-years to have a relationship with her. I’m done. After her and her husband and 3-kids staying in my home, not taking a shower for the 5-days they were here; bringing fleas to my home (I guess in their clothing;) sneaking around taking pictures of me. And then touching my husbands ** telling him he has a flat **? Good lord it’s crazy. And I will not have this filthy, psycho in my home again. My husband can go see them on his own. She is just a trouble maker and manipulative and I do not need a fake relationship. DONE!

SERIOUSALLY?? Apparently you have never been a step-parent or if you have you had the 1% of stepkids that actually have a grasp on reality and don't EXPECT the ENTIRE world to revolve around THEM simply because they are children. My stepkids (both teens) would love nothing more than for me to be "gone" so that they can go back to controlling mommy and to work off her guilt of the divorce to THEIR benefit. They see me as a hindrance to that end as I call them out on their teenage ** and more often than not their mother sees through it when I bring it to her attention. 99% of stepkids are UNGRATEFUL, ENTITLED, and SELF-CENTERED individuals that see themselves as the center of the universe. To them a step-parent "gets in the way" of their controlling the "bio parent" and as step-parents we see them CLEARLY for what they REALLY are; selfish, incredulous and immature individuals. The dysfunctional dynamic of the "blended family" IS NOT the fault of the step-parent. The dysfunctional dynamic of the blended family IS the fault of UNGRATEFUL and SELF-CENTERED IMMATURE stepkids and the "bio parent" that enables their behavior by holding them accountable for NOTHING all the while rewarding immature behavior. While it is true that the stepkids do not and did not ask for a new "parent" to be brought into their life, it is also true that step-parents did not and do not ask for the "privelige" of helping to
support and raise ungrateful and selfish stepkids.

.... Do you hear the way you speak?

Take a look in the mirror, lady. You're jealous of the relationship between a father and his Daughter. You should very much be ashamed.

Nope step daughter is a narcissist and the fathers the problem... Run...

**. So you don't like someone standing up to a lazy ** and doesn't want to be used .....

YOU are JEALOUS of a romantic relationship between two adults.

All of your are mental freaks for hating on children your spoused to care for all step parents that hate there stepchild should not be allowed near a kid

Tosh ! Step parents don't hate on kids, they get annoyed at being treated in disrespectful manner by anyone.

Thank you!!! Step kids are the problem, NOT the step-parents. It is ungrateful and self-centered stepkids that cause the issues in step-families, NOT the step-parent that freely takes on a ready made family. GROW UP ALL YOU UNGRATEFUL STEP-KIDS!

AGREED!!!!!

ABSOLUTELY!! I am a step-parent to TWO teenagers (Thank you for your sympathy...lol) and all I want for them is to grow up to be responsible adults and not the little ungrateful, self-centered, and obnoxious people that they are now. Their mother on the other hand coddles and enables their immature behavior and if it were up to her they would NEVER grow up! Being a step-parent is about bringing perspective to children who are "stuck" at age 6 because either mom or dad felt so guilty for the divorce that they chose to simply no longer require ANYTHING of their kids. This parenting out of guilt stunts the childs growth and the emotional maturation process ceases to exist. Enter the step-parent and we inherit dysfunctional kids and we are ALWAYS seen as the "bad guy" because we see through the fact that "bio parent" is ** the kids up. In turn the step-parent becomes an easy target for EVERYONE'S problems. If there are issues just blame it on the newcomer. Afterall, before the step-parent came along everything was fine; right? Being a step-parent to kids of ANY age just **. You will NEVER be appreciated, you will NEVER be recognized, you will ALWAYS be an outsider, and YOU will ALWAYS be blamed for whatever problems arise within the family dynamic. Step-parent ARE NOT the problem with blended families. The children/step-children are the problem as in most cases they have been given MUCH TO MUCH "power" in the family. God forbid that "bio parent" upset little "Johnny" or little "Susie". EVERYONE needs to STOP blaming blended family issues on the step-parents and place the blame where it rightly belongs; with the spoiled and coddled children and the enabling "bio-parents".

Snowflake crybaby ** your just a worthless scum step parent after all ahh boo cry cry

You **

The step-parent doesn't **, all of you hating on this step-parent **. This step-daughter is grown. She should be gone and independent.

Wow

Gosh aren’t you mature! Try using grown up words and sentences!

Double penetrated a +10year old school girl in uniform kidnapped

You should be proud that you can use the internet and type. I'm sure it's quite a challenge, given the fact that you are incredibly stupid.
Having said that, please don't use the word "snowflake" as an insult. You don't need to advertise the fact that you are a complete idiot.

I have 3 adult stepdaughters - all somewhat rude to me. One of them will be coming and visit dad my husband this coming July - 5 people - 3 kids 2 adults. We live in a tiny Townhome.......it will be rough and tough. This time around I have decided to take none of their ** anymore. It boils down to their insecurities and I will not allow them any 'power' over me. When she visits from out of state she always want 'daddy time' - them 2 watching movies together them 2 having intimate little talks sitting close to each other. I could careless about that. And when they show up in July I will tell them right from the start - we have rules in this house, no eating on the couch, no running in the stairs and when I come home from work, worked a full day - I don't want to listen to screaming crying children - go outside. My husband is such a push over when it comes to his daughters. I guess he feel guilt for being in the army when they were small children. I think girls are so much tougher than boys. We need to stop letting these insecure girls ruining our marriages. Yoga and meditation certainly has helped me.

Snowflake crybaby wants alone time with stupid husband

Evil step mother wants to control everything and blame everyone for their problems. Every step mom chose to be in a relationship with a man who has children. There is no we just fell in love and so the child needs to now accept me. No....A bunch of adult babies on here who aren't mature enough to be any kind of parent.

She'll get the time she wants w/husband because her step-kids are losers like you. I always get what I want because my step-**'s biological dad hates her.

God forbid they want to catch up with their father.

Part of the healing process for you would be to acknowledge the role you play in all of this. He loves them.

They are insecure that you are ruining their relationship with him.... and your cruel post is evidence enough that you are not lacking in insecurity yourself.

Good lord. What a ** **. You’re angry that she wants to spend time with her dad? And don’t want her children screaming and crying? Do you actually have any yourself? I’m guessing either you don’t or you were an awful parent. Screaming and crying is going to happen if she’s visiting with three children. You’re a **.

Moron

You must be one of the disrespectful, hateful stepdaughters!

Shh you just want dads money I have a stepsister just like you 🤣🤣**

These comments are scary since my step daughter is only 16 and I still have two years left - I’ll pass on these probs in her later years. The only thing I can think of is praying for God to intervene having her and the in-laws move far far away, staying busy with my own life, and moving to a smaller 2 bedroom place in a couple of years. Sometimes I hope she marries someone like her dad so she can go thru the pain I went thru then maybe she wouldn’t act different. Doesn’t help with my husband not standing up to her or his parents when treating me terrible. I pray that changes too. I need some miracles Lord Jesus.

I feel sorry for you all. But as hard as it may be continue to love your husband and support him. I have adult step-daughters as well. They have given me a run for my money and know exactly what buttons to push to cause an argument between me and their dad. I am not one to bite my tongue until I realized what they are doing. They are jealous of our relationship and accomplishments together and try to ruin it. I am standing strong for what I want and that is a life with my husband. Hopefully they will run out of energy once they realize I am not going anywhere. His 30 year old daughter pushes past me when she visits my home drunk with a bottle of vodka in her and goes upstairs to our bedroom and cuddles with her father. Actually climbs in the bed. Of course, he gave her a hug back but pushed her away and took her downstairs outside and talked to her. What was said I don’t know. Then went to the downstairs bathroom with her brother (stepson). I opened the door not knowing they were in there. I can’t say on this post what I saw. It was unnerving. I am too embarrassed for my husband to tell him what I saw. I love him and realize why he is protective of them. There are serious issues. I have two adult sons of my own who are very respectful of my husband and our marriage. Raised differently I guess. Love will hold us together.

They're not "jealous of your relationship" they hate the fact they have to listen to some ** who ** their parent. You're ** to them. They could care less about you. They want their parent back not some bitchy ** who talks about them like this. I bet their actual parent lets you treat them like that too. That's also why.

13itchy ego you freak women have if some loser that wasn't my birth parent tried to tell me what to do that doughter should probably smack you an put you in your place
Snowflake crybabys

That would be fine if you have a husband that puts you first and doesn’t allow the disrespectful hateful behavior.

Absolutely! I am the step-father to two 16 year olds and after 9 years together with their mother I still feel like that I ALWAYS take a backseat to the kids. Most days I feel no more than a "bystander" in my family. Whomever says that the "kids come first" in a blended family surely was never in a blended family. Putting the kids first only exacerbates issues within the family as the kids begin to view the step-parent as just another sibling. Wether you agree or disagree, the strongest families are built on God-The Marriage-The Children. IN THAT ORDER! Anything else is a recipe for dysfunction and chaos.

I often tell their father how lazy they are and how they should go to school and work mom learning a skill, I get at him because they do nothing and they struggle to make ends meet. Recently I realized that they live the way live because they are lazy low achievers and thought daddy was going continue to provide for them N continue to spoil them even after they were got married with children, because they married uneducated WT man with no HS diploma, but I look now and realized that their lives are so miserable and how emotionally and financially ** they are- yet we live in a beautiful home and both drive very nice cars, take vacation and overall have a nice life. At this point that their uneducated looser ** struggle emotionally and mentally, they haven’t taken a vacation in years because they can’t afford it, they I’ve in nasty homes like WT and can’t afford nice things for their own children. It brings lots of pleasure how see them struggle with emotional issues they e for several years since they were teens n still continues but now they have children andN the dysfunctional cycle continues. I hope that when their father dies I get everything n they get nothing, they counting on him. I hope I can manipulate him enough so they get nothing!!!

Lazy, low achievers! Perfect description of mine!

Mine live 10-hours away and still make my life miserable with their 3-times per day phone calls and never ending requests for money.

I feel like I wrote this... I am going through the same thing.. the step daughter (22) just recently moved out but now she only ever wants something when she calls, she is continuously spreading nasty awful lies about me and her dad and he seems oblivious to it. It's come to the point where I am telling myself jail won't be that bad, and it would be worth it to be able to knock her in the ** head a couple good times . I didn't use to feel this way towards her, we were actually pretty close when she was younger but she has grown into a disrespectful, two faced, manipulating pos. Not to mention she is a compulsive lier. I do not believe a word she says. It's pretty bad that her own sister and mother cannot stand her yet her dad continues to be oblivious to everything. I don't know what to do, I've even taken up counseling to try to work through my feelings toward her since I have never hated someone or wanted to fight someone as much as I do her. It doesn't help, nothing helps... I feel as if the only help would be spending a night in jail after giving her a well deserved/past due a$$whoopin. At least I know I'm not alone in this battle

My step daughter is 30! Lies all the time, manipulates and uses people. She literally lies all the time, and can’t even remember or kept track of her own bs stories. She is married now, 3 kids, all under 5. We love the babies very much, and she uses them like pawns. We are 2nd choice for holidays, but we are the first to help out. Her mother and step father are unemployed (always) drink, use meth, borrow and use people and etc.... but mom and step dad can do no wrong. She is jealous often off her younger sisters and expects the same treatment, gifts, and vacations we do for them. We cant afford to pay for a family of 5 and I don’t feel like I should. My husband sometimes sees it but overtime he forgets and almost never calls her out on her bad behavior or treatment to us or me. I love the babies, do I keep my mouth shut, she would be do low yo take them from us, but if if I can keep quiet much longer. I very badly want to tell her to ** off... she is 30! I don’t see her changing anytime soon. I don’t want to do it anymore. I think I hate her...

To her your playing favorites a if you cant afford to give everyone a vacation you are picking only family member over the other thats sadly pethetic parents like this are worthless scum trash

I totally agree with you in this post...and feel horrible at the same time. I’ve helped raise my SD since she was 5...she moved in with us when she was 12. She’s made some VERY poor decisions regarding guys & ** & because I call her out in it (because I AM a concerned parent) I am the bad guy & get talked ** about by her.
My husband & I ended up separating for 6 months, mostly behind her, and now that we’re back together we are experiencing some of the same issues due to her.
Love & hugs your way❤️

You need to tell him that either things change or you will leave for good. I set boundaries, I don’t have to spend holidays birthday or anything with the liars lazy manipulative fat ssdholes they are. I don’t see them, I do hear about them occasionally but mostly when he complaints about their horrible trashy behavior, if I do t like what I’m hearing or don’t care, I change the subject to our child’s something something. They are looser emotional needy lazy low achiever looses with very miserable lives. He feels that he lives to lives, he sees them very little and when he does it’s not quality time, it’s like passing through mostly, they go out and celebrate birthday or anything like that.xmas they get about 300 $ not even Xmasday it’s before Xmas way before. We spend holidays at home with my family n have Xmas at home, they are invited to with us ever!! We do fancy dinners on weekends n Friday nights with our family. They have miserable lives and I enjoy it! They made me miserable the little bit short period of times they came to live with us, but left soon after they came every time. Our child being born was very hurtful and painful to his youngest who thought was running the show n had daddy wrapped around her **, she no longer does! I do!

I’m with ya sister! My 47 year old stepdaughter has been a disrespectful, liar, daddy manipulating , asking for hand outs for 20 years now. We pay half her house payment since her 2nd divorce and her dad can’t believe anything I say and it’s never her fault! I’m going nuts and would love to punch her in that lying mouth of hers. She undermines everything I do. If I ask her to back off with all her problems to her dad she sends him copies of the texts and says she doesn’t want to play these games with me! Therapy doesn’t seem to be working. Her dad and I started 2 years ago because she’s destroying my marriage.

Mental ego snowflake crys for attention from husband

Freak

Wow! YES. Being a stepmom is hard and just saying what some of you have said.. I don’t know if I could have said it myself but you took the words out of my mouth. His two children are much younger but the 12 year old girl is the one I have an issue with. It doesn’t matter what I do, she just is rude, hurtful, manipulative, and non to mention she lies about so many things. I never know if what she’s saying is true. His 10 year old son and I have a decent relationship but even he has his moments. Their mom is an addict and rarely shows up or calls them. I work from home as well so I probably see more of them than anyone. Luckily, I have enough good moments with them that I try to remember those moments when I start feeling like I’m sinking and about to cuss this little girl out!!! Haha. I hope it gets better, the longer we stay together. I’m literally outside my place typing this, trying to get away from them for a few minutes. She will push me and her dad’s buttons just to get a rise out of us. We both try and stay strong but MAN she can be SO ** MEAN!! I have to remind myself that’s she’s a child all the time so I don’t lose my **. We even have done a lot of fun things and had really good talks before but if she gets mad then it’s like those things never happened before.. especially if her mom starts calling or coming around. I feel like saying “** it” all the time when I think about how I could be dealing with this for many more years. Good luck to all of you!!!

You know, i have dealt with the same issues. My step daughter is still in high school and as last year she moved in with her aunt because she was tired of my "b#$%h @ss". Ok well bye. I have other children to worry about who arent disrespectful and who actually pull their weight around the house ( chores, ect.). I honestly believe the household is in a better position now that she is gone, even when she shows up and her brothers address her (they are happy to see her), she talks to them like ** and gives them her ** attitude. The only part of me who dislikes the situation is seeing my wife's pain which i dont understand because shes called her mother every name in the book and has tried to fight her on many occasions. The well has run dry for me. Good luck to you though!

If my child were to end up with a stepmom half as evil as you people, I would honestly murder the **. You people belong in jail, an asylum, or a grave.

Hahaha well then don't raise pos disrespectful bratt a$$ kids and you won't have to worry.. if you ain't dealing with something similar, then wtf you doing here?! Bye !

Such a mature, sophisticated response. Wow. I will need months to digest. not. I have a stepson who is awesome. However, my stepdaughter is the queen **. You have no idea how difficult it is to give, give, give and the father buys their live and your the **. It is comical. No. It is horribly sad. It isn’t the stepparents fault. It is the blood parents fault. Not knowing how to manage their kids - because they feel guilty for a failed marriage.

It's mothers like you that raise your pieces of ** children like animals..you asswipes teach your children from a young age to hate their stepmother because you niserable ** are upset that your ex husband divorced you and the only rhing you pos have dangling over the marriage is your child. so sad.

This is such a bs comment. Obviously you are a bitter step daughter.

And let me guess....you’ve never been a step mom or a step daughter?

What’s your point. By definition she is a step mom. What an idiotic comment. I share her identical feelings about my bratty, lying, Machevelian, self serving, snotty, unappreciative and socially inept 24 year old. Do you have a value added comment, for a serious family problem for me as well? Mine is driving my wife and I to divorce.

She is the ugly, disrespectful, hateful step daughter

The world would be a better place if step-** like you were never born in the first place.

So many awful pieces of ** in this thread. I feel so bad for these poor children who have to deal with such evil. You're the ones who chose to marry people with children and yet you have so much hate for the kids of the person you claim to love? I hope some of you die in a car crash. You deserve to burn in **.

LOL who sounds bitter?? Sounds like you.

Gtfoh this is for us to vent not be judged. Everyone is living their own life doing their own thing sometimes you just need to vent and connect with people dealing with the same thing you are... That obviously ain't you so keep your judgements to yourself and move tf on to a "I love my step kids" page you judgmental b+*%/

Exactly. You can be doing everything you’re supposed to as a stepmom and they will still hate you! Maybe they believe they are betraying their biological mom by accident their new stepmom. I try to remember all of these things but sometimes you just accidentally lose your **. But all parents do this. You could try and be a little more empathetic and just let everyone vent and leave us alone.

Trust me. Many of These step parents are good people. A person can only take so much **. It is the birth parents fault and guilt that create these monsters. Buying love instead of live and discipline.

What is wrong with you? You have serious anger issues!

Christ you're a freak and clearly don't have a clue what you're talking about

Obviously your life as a step-child is miserable. You deserve it.

Yup. We detest stepchildren because they, like you, are mistakes.
You will always be a jealous loser. We will always help you to understand & acknowledge what you really are: a jealous, conniving, miserable mistake that no one likes.

My step daughter has been brain washed by her mother since the age of 5. Her mother made it very difficult for my husband to see his daughter through out the years. The mother has mental issues along with having had several STD's, MRSA and HPV. Her only identity is being a 30 year old's mother. The 30 year old step daughter is very destructive when at my house. She flushed maxi pads down the toilet and then lies about doing so. She has put dents in my new refrigerator and dropped menstral blood on my new rugs and ruined a new faucette. Her husband has every food allergy and I have to make the menu around his allergies. If I never see them again, it would be great. When she was growing up, I spent so much time and money on her. Her mother would throw away anything that I got my step daughter. I am at my wits end with this self centered adult brat....she even treats her father like **.

I feel your pain. I hate my stepdaughter so much I can't even begin to express it, yet if I even bring up that she annoys me, I am the evil stepmother. She is lazy, stupid as a rock, and has basically intruded on my life without anyone asking how I felt about her presence in MY home. She is almost 19 years old with zero ambition to do anything other than eat fast food, watch TV, and lay on the chair in MY living room, taking up space and destroying my peace and my time with my husband. Just the sound of her voice makes me want to vomit. This girl was literally thrust onto me without asking, and I've been putting up with it for almost a year. I'd rather her choke to death on a McDonald's french fry than to ever have to deal with this ** for one more day. I cannot do anything but imagine her leaving, which at this point is the only thing that would make me happy. Otherwise, her presence is soul-sucking me dry. I hate her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's exactly how I feel about mine.

When my stepdaughter asked to come live with us after we married (20 years ago in May) we said no. She stayed with her uncle and his religious wife and their 4 kids. They dressed like Amish and lived that way too. But she finally calmed down because before her own mother was useless. In and out of mental institutions and actually became pregnant while away in one. She couldn’t claim it was my husband’s because he’d not only had a vasectomy but the girl was of a different race than them both. Anyway neither of them could deal with wild child so they sent her to live with her uncle. We’ve never been close and are now estranged because I let her and her husband and family of 4 kids stay in our new beach home not even having had it a year ourselves. She had the audacity to ask if a cousin of hers could join them m, which was fine but instead of asking me she calls my husband who’s busy seeing patients and aske him having just left our home, seeing me that morning where they stayed for several days before heading to our beach house. She also wanted my stepson and his family to join then and stay there too. No interest in is being there along with them but just using it as a free hotel while they visited the area and afterwards she NEVER even said thank you or sent a card or anything. I’m done being nice to her and she’s mad at me for finding stuff they left in the house. Beds not made and them leaving and leaving a second story window open anyone with a ladder could climb into.

Out of all the comments here this far, yours is the most disgusting. Either you have failed to describe any reason other than your own bias. Are you racist? Sounds like her deadbeat father treated her like second class garbage her whole life and you were cheering him on every step of the way.

Now she asks to use your superfluous beach house and you’re ** enough to spew ** like this? I get hating the way some step kids can make us feel. But not on your end. You sound horrible. Poor girl was raised by religious freaks and rejected by her own father when she needed saving and all you can do is ** about allowing her the grand privilege of using her “parents” precious beach house. If I were her I would have off’ed myself a ling time ago.

Jesus H Christ on a popsicle stick...lmao! Do all you step-"moms" hating on children, realize you're hating on CHILDREN? Not ur college roommate or the bitchy preppy girl in high school that your boyfriend stared up and down daily wishing he could f***, but CHILDREN? Let that sink in for a moment before you start writing your defense to this post.

Regardless, of what a "loser" you may think she is or how she's "sabotaging" your marriage to her Dad, it may help all of you to play Devils advocate for a moment and put yourself in her shoes. Look at different perspectives as to why she is the way she is, which will probably give you more insight, a more forgiving attitude, and a better understanding of her. And all of that would lead to a more honest, loving and fulfilling marriage with the man you say you love.

Imagine what you're doing to her Dad in this "fight for his love" between the two of you. You're forcing your husband to choose between you and his daughter. That's not fair nor right and you know it. If you are seriously fighting for his undivided attention, love and admiration 24-7 with a child, that in my opinion, is selfish, childish, shallow, immature af, and quite the loser any way you cut it.

None of us are perfect, including you so-called step-moms wishing death and torment upon your step-children. Who's to say that people from your past weren't saying those exact same things about you at that age or **, probably currently as well? You'd be better served displaying kindness to others, including your stepchildren, versus anger, hostility and resentment. Js.

Oh “the audacity to ask if her cousin could join her” hahaha. SOME inconsiderate people have the nerve to want a family gathering. God you are gross.

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LOL! french fry!!
Ibfeel your pain. I hate my 13 yo stepdaughter. Known her since she was 4 and was a great stepmother to her. Had my own children 3 years ago and all ** broke loose. Her comment to me when i told her i was pregnant was "i wanted to be the only one"...yeah right ugly **!

Lol. I got pregnant with the only boy! Ha! I marked my territory that way. And he’s Jr. as well because he’s the only boy.Take thAt them little **. Jelousy it’s a major part of our lives. Competing with n my little son- who it’s clueless about the whole thing. They hate me because I get their fathers attention n mostly get everything I want. I no longer have to see or be around those to fat **, I stated it very clear to my husband thAt I did not want to be around them and their disrespect ** behavior. I told him he can go see them somewhere else but they come around my house, and they don’t. They would love for me to be gone for good. But stubborn as **. I’m not leaving for my son and because I refuse to let them have things their way. They dislike me because I’m pretty I’m smart and I’m thin n not fat like them. They are lazy with no goals in life none!! Smooching of their father it’s what they do best. I see them both as losers unhappy bitter looses like their mom