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Engagement Ring
I love my husband. I have never had a doubt about the strength of our relationship. But my confession is that I have never liked my engagement ring. This isn't a monetary issue, I do not care about how much it did or did not cost. I honestly feel that it's tacky.
I have NEVER breathed a word of this to him - or anyone for that matter. For those who care, it's a quad/invisible setting. Since the day he asked me to marry him, I was incredibly happy about the proposal but saddened at the ring that I was going to have to wear for the rest of my life.
Now that many years have passed, I have tried to think of a way to bring this up. He recently said "I wish I had taken more time to pick out your ring, but I know how attached you are to it now"...and I never said anything. I don't want to break his heart.
I would however like to break the legs of the person at the store who convinced him this was an engagement ring instead of a cocktail ring.
I feel like a horrible person for even concerning myself with something so petty.
Make sure it's covered by insurance and "lose it", new ring minus the drama of hurt feelings!
It's not petty. You've worn a ring you don't like for so many years, and you never had a say in picking it out, which wouldn't have mattered if it were a traditional engagement ring rather than a ring that looks like a cocktail ring. Maybe if you said something like let's renew our wedding vows and start over with new rings. Some people do that by getting a diamond wedding band, the anniversary rings, to replace their original engagement and wedding band. He sort of opened the door by saying, "I wish I had taken more time to pick out your ring, but I know how attached you are to it now". And you wouldn't have to pay an arm and a leg for a new ring, just enough to get something you'd be happy wearing.