Engagement Ring

I love my husband. I have never had a doubt about the strength of our relationship. But my confession is that I have never liked my engagement ring. This isn't a monetary issue, I do not care about how much it did or did not cost. I honestly feel that it's tacky.

I have NEVER breathed a word of this to him - or anyone for that matter. For those who care, it's a quad/invisible setting. Since the day he asked me to marry him, I was incredibly happy about the proposal but saddened at the ring that I was going to have to wear for the rest of my life.

Now that many years have passed, I have tried to think of a way to bring this up. He recently said "I wish I had taken more time to pick out your ring, but I know how attached you are to it now"...and I never said anything. I don't want to break his heart.

I would however like to break the legs of the person at the store who convinced him this was an engagement ring instead of a cocktail ring.

I feel like a horrible person for even concerning myself with something so petty.

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  • Make sure it's covered by insurance and "lose it", new ring minus the drama of hurt feelings!

  • It's not petty. You've worn a ring you don't like for so many years, and you never had a say in picking it out, which wouldn't have mattered if it were a traditional engagement ring rather than a ring that looks like a cocktail ring. Maybe if you said something like let's renew our wedding vows and start over with new rings. Some people do that by getting a diamond wedding band, the anniversary rings, to replace their original engagement and wedding band. He sort of opened the door by saying, "I wish I had taken more time to pick out your ring, but I know how attached you are to it now". And you wouldn't have to pay an arm and a leg for a new ring, just enough to get something you'd be happy wearing.

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