What should I do? (Pregnant)

I am 17 my boyfriend is 19 going on 20. I am pregnant and don't believe in abortion. My mom says I am giving it up for adoption and is pretty much calling all the shots and is pushing my boyfriend out of the picture. I know my moms right on giving it up cause I am so young but I don't want that. I'd rather live with the consequences of my own actions even if its going to be hard. How do I get my mom to see that?

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  • Excuse me? Are you in fact talking to me? Because i did not say ONE WORD about adoption. I am strictly against abortion. All I said was, she might want to consider what her mother said about getting an abortion but that she should think everything over carefully.

    How dare you say that most people will not get anywhere if they are ambitious? Who the h*** do you think you are? I have personally done a lot in this life and am standing on my own two feet without anyone's help because I am a hard worker and trust me mr. loud mouth I and many like myself will get very far indeed.

    You are using people as s** slaves by paying them money - so you are harbouring prostitudes and boasting about it because you throw money in their faces - how classy! Jesus Christ, I don't even know what to say to you other than you are disgusting that you cant find a woman to sleep with you for any other reason than for money.

    All I'm going to say is, your post is not productive, you're just going on about yourself and other people and not actually supplying any advice to this girl so you may want to take your stories somewhere else.

  • I'm wondering how old you may be to suggest running away to a pregnant 17 year old. People should learn to face up to their problems and running away from your family and all that is familiar when in a situation like this is certainly not the answer. If they are not financially stable, then how can they provide a good life for this child while trying to pay rent, bills, food, hospital expenses etc etc?

    Go on to ivillage.co.uk and people with knowledge and experience will do their best to support you. At the same time, consult some older friends or family members.

  • http://forums.ivillage.co.uk/t5/Pregnancy-Baby-Forums/ct-p/iv-ukbabyz

    And have a look at this. Sign up and speak to the members there. They are extremely helpful and supportive and will bring you more advice than a confession site will.

  • Your mother seems like a pretty determined my-way-or-no-way sort of person and as you know her best, it's down to you to make her see that you know what is right for you.

    I'm 24 and I had an abortion last month. It was not a difficult choice for me as I knew it was the right thing for me because I feel I am still young (probably not to you!) and I have a whole life ahead of me. I'm working full time and I have ambitions of making something of myself. I'd like to make plenty of money so that I can give my child everything a mother would want to give theirs. I'd like to get married and live life before I commit myself to a life-long responsibility. Please don't forget that.

    As magical as it is to be a mother, don't forget there is no turning back. That's another human being that YOU have to take care of 24/7 for the rest of your life. If you have any ambitions, any dreams then perhaps it may be best to see what the world has to offer you first. You can always have children, just make sure it's the right time and you are doing it for the right reasons.

    But if you are indeed certain that this is what you want and you can financially afford to raise a child, then of course, follow your heart as that's what matters at the end of the day. Noone can "force" you to do something you don't want to do.

    I wish you all the very best and I hope you make the right decision.

    Keep us posted x

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