Classes and Training

The only reason I took the massage therapy classes was to appease my mom and grandma. Closing in on 4 months after graduating from the course, I'm still unemployed, and no closer to figuring out what I want to do with my life. Truth be told, hardly a day goes by that I don't consider just killing myself and being done with it. 23, male.

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  • I know where you're coming from. When I was 23, I was done with college and working crap jobs for minimum wage. I had no idea what I was going to do with my life, either. Eventually I went back to school, stayed there probably too long, and went out and found boring office work. While doing that boring office work, I found that when new employees were hired, the training tended to fall to me--not because I was some sort of patsy, but because I actually enjoyed training the newbies, and the newbies tended to like being trained by me. Eventually I put two and two together and realized I should go become a teacher, since that's where my skills and predilections lie.

    I'm not saying that teaching's necessarily the way to go. What I mean to say is that if you do something, you'll come closer to realizing just what it is you want to do. Keep thinking about it. It obviously matters to you that you figure it out, which means that you probably will.

    Oh, and try to can the suicide talk. Seriously. That kind of talk has a way of becoming self-fulfilling prophecy. I read the journals of my sister after she killed herself a few years ago, and self-destruction was a recurring topic. She wrote about it for thirteen years, which is probably what let her work up the nerve to go ahead and do it. Please don't talk casually about suicide. If you're seriously thinking about it, please get help. I wish I didn't know what I'm talking about, but I do.

  • One idea..just because without a job you have the world at your feet. Have you ever thought about maybe teaching English abroad? You may not make a lot of money, but maybe do some traveling and get paid. Maybe you'll really enjoy teaching and when the program is done, maybe you'll have a different perspective. It's tough for everyone right now, but don't give up.

  • I agree with the other posters when they say you are young and time to figure it all out. It's a tough job market in most places so you aren't alone when it comes to unemployment or under employment.
    Even though massage therapy may not be a life long career for you, it could open doors to a future you don't even know exists yet. Try getting into a massage clinic even if the pay sucks. You will meet lots of people from various fields which could lead to a new career for you. It's called networking.

    If you can relocate, there is plenty of work in the Dallas Texas area. Not to mention South Dakota and the Gulf Coast. Both of which are supported by the oil exploration and drilling business. All these places have "help wanted" signs out.

    Good Luck... as they say "This too shall pass"

  • I can relate.

    I was 22 and unemployed, I didn't know what i wanted to do with my life, and i was under pressure from my mom to study a course, any course.

    I decided to take a donkey vote and chose to be a chef.
    It gave me an amazing experience and met new people, but ultimately it wasn't what i wanted to do for a career.

    Even if being a masseur isn't what you want, it doesn't mean your life is over.

    I spent 6 months after that just doing anything i wanted without worrying about a career and it just came to me.

    Keep up the good fight.

  • Man, you have plenty of time to figure out what you are going to do for employment. The Massage School sounded like a bad idea because you appear to have been forced into it, but any education is self improvement; so it's good for that.

    Plus, many people are late bloomers and don't figure out what they are going to do with their lives until much later than 23. You should try to enjoy your young years and look at figuring out what you will do for employment as a challenge and try not to get depressed about it. In the meantime, I'd suggest just trying to find any kind of work to make money until you find what is right for you. If you keep trying, you will make it happen.

    Take care.

  • Your young so much life to live still, your 23 and a lot father than most people lol live life to the fullest and with no regrets

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