I absolutely hate being a dad

But when she is 18 you can stop having any relation with her. C'mon. You failed, you made that kid, it is your job to make it work. Later, when she is a grownup, you will be free again. No big deal - many other people were in exactly same situation before you. Face it. Life is (...) sometimes. It is not all candy bar. Give her some education, then tell her g'bye. That's that.

Having kids destroyed my life.
Why the ** would anyone want kids.

Having a child is quite honestly the worst thing to happen to me. It's a decision I will never recover from.

Hate is a strong word but clearly between the moments of some enjoyment ( a smile maybe) what gets the better of me are 1) her mum just constantly has to feed her and it’s wearing her down where suddenly this woman who was always positive becomes snappy and for a good reason 2) you cannot really help (much) but still get all the side effects of bad sleep / bad conscience for not being to help (much). Sure I do the diapers and the shopping and cooking but really the mum has to go through the pains of breastfeeding avery 2-3 hours and while this goes away at 6 months something else that’s painful will take its place, I know for sure that is the case 3) you can’t talk to anyone about this because society constantly asks you if you have this sense of warm love and fullfilment etc. That admittance isn’t even the point of 3. It’s the start of my third and final point. While as a dad you’re pretty useless in helping mum get through it, your own productivity at your work goes down and that really hurts. See I’m not just working in an office where you can somewhat navigate the politics and manoeuvre around and still get the same salary maybe with a but less of a bonus at the end of the year (trust me I know how this works I’ve been there before). The issue here is I work for myself now and actually really care about what I do and how I deliver it and so do my direct clients.

So this combination of a) not really being able to help effectively and b) suffering the same consequences but not being able to express it because your partner is dealing with the most obvious of the pains and troubles - that’s what I dislike about it the most. That and at the end of the day you have a responsibility for your kid to have the best possible life and so you need to act along.

Then you should have either wrapped it up or not trusted some baby-hungry loser woman to be honest about her birth control. There are too many people on the planet already, and even though it's finally becoming cool to be childfree there are still too many idiots like yourself who treat potential baby-making sessions like Russian roulette. Bed made lie, amigo. Now STFU and go get the snip so you don't bring another unwanted DNA replicant into the world.

Idiot.

Too honest? Deal with it, loser!

The only loser here is the edgelord know-it-all who's probably still a virgin with some ** minimum wage job ;)

I also dislike kids, that's why I don't have any... But I think that there is something worse than making a mistake and it is being stuck to it, to let the mistake spread into the future. My advice: get rid of her. Society is not very understandful with this kind of mistakes but at the end is your life not Society's life. It is just you who will have a terrible life. So, be brave, and face reality as people who are gay had to face their sexuality and tell the world "sorry, but that is not for me". Maybe your parents want to take over the kid? Or you can give her for adoption? She rather be in a family with people who like kids. It is also the best for her.

Poor child. Well, you should have thought about all that before getting your girlfriend pregnant, don't you think? Now that little girl is never going to have a real dad in her life. What has she done to you? Nothing. And now all her life is gonna be a mess just because you made a mistake. The mistake is yours, not hers. And mostly, NOT HER. Have some respect for her and at least try to love her, because she deserves it. Everyone deserves to have a dad. There's so many people out there losing their kids, so many people that can't be mums and dads and you're here, complaining about having a healthy daughter. Have some shame. Feel really sorry for her, though. God bless that little girl.

That other people have other problems does not mean this dad has to love his child. It is impossible to love by command. He should just confront reality and solve his problem.

Shut up, sap

Defensive much, OP or loser who thinks like him? Too bad. Your life is a misery and we are all going to laugh at you for it. Well, that and your inability to say anything besides weaksauce insults that reflect butthurt more than anything.

I feel bad for you buddy. I hate kids too. Couldnt you just give her to hedr mother and just disappear? It'd be worth a name change to be free of your hellion.
I got super sick with the flu and as a result my birth control pill didnt work (from all the throwing up and bathroom trips) and it was the worst possible thing that could have happed at that point in my life. My boyfriend was SO HAPPY, he didnt want me to do anything but have the stupid thing. So I stopped eating and tripled my work load at the gym, which didnt do a thing. So I dumped the boyfriend and got rid of the mistake. Best thing I ever did.
I say just leave. If you hate her that much it'd be better for both of you to just go.

Lol love ur first line. Are u a bogan?

You sound like such a selfish loser. I lost my daughter last year and not a second goes by that I don't miss her. Having a healthy child is the greatest blessing a person can have. Stop being such a c*nt and enjoy the moments you have together. One day you'll be old and look back in regret at what an immature a**hole you were!

Not everyone is cut out for parenthood tho. You cant blame the guy for being honest. I hate children, well any kid that isn't trained properly to behave like a human being. I'm sick of going to nice restaurants only to have some knobgobbler and her husband enjoying their meal while their kids are running amok and hollering. There is a place for that, called McDonald's. If the kids are sitting at their own table and being reasonably quiet I don't mind.
Last month at brunch a woman proceeded to CHANGE HER DAUGHTERS DIRTY DIAPER ON AN EMPTY TABLE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE RESTAURANT. People were furious. The server wouldn't ask her to relocate after we showed her what was happening so we walked out. Four other tables followed us. Children **, and its usually because their parents ** at parenting.

Last week a very self-assured family strutted into my favorite breakfast place: a 'mommy', a 'daddy', the requisite two small blonde children, and the increasingly inevitable small dog. (Yes, in a place that serves food)

Small Blond Boy, who was carrying the dog, promptly put it on the counter by the register-- that place where everyone else's bagels and scones were going to be set. Apparently this was okay, because they were those entitled, Life is Good-types? Uh, NO. Trashy behavior is trashy behavior.

And there so, so needs to be a licensing process to become a parent. Maybe we'll get there right after it's just a little too late, that's how humanity tends to work...

I'm sorry for your loss but be tolerant with people who are not like you. You loved your daughter and she passed away, well, he doesn't love his daughter. Understand that is therefore a different case!! Assume not everybody enjoys and loves the same things! For you having a child is the best, great, but THAT IS FOR YOU. I hate kids too, and I am not telling you that you have to hate them too... Everybody should find what suits them.

Shut up, **.
Some of us NEVER wanted children. But, I guess OUR happiness just doesn't ** matter anymore.
All because some little snot nosed brat decided to spoil it

Then you should have wrapped it or taken the pill or any of oh, about a thousand other options BESIDES bringing an unwanted hungry mouth into the world. Your poor life decisions are now inflicted on the rest of us, and you're going to get what you deserve for it. Sit down and shut up, you're in for a long ride!

How old are you? although i dont have children i completely understand you and you shouldnt feel as if this is the end to your life... I gotta say not many guys are willing to at least pretend to love their kids and willing to spend time with them... Having a kid is a big responsibility but that does not mean your life is over... You can most definitely still date and find a woman to marry so stop seeing your kid as something so bad... Someone who truly loves you will not just give up on you or not love you because you have a daughter... Im in a serious relationship w my bf of 2yrs and he has a kid and although i would of loved for him not to have had a kid with his ex who actually got her kid taken away cuz shes a druggy so now he has full custody.. I love him and its not the kids fault and i dont really like kids tbh but oh well... Just dont let there be lots of baby momma drama be a good responsible father and love yourself and you will be good :)

Grow up, juvenile delinquent!

Yeah, this is why I'm child free.

Your a ** head, one day she will hate you too.. Haven't you ever heard of safe **!

Safe ** fails. And then? Remember he is the dad not the mum.

Then the feeling will finally be mutual