I never stopped loving an ex-GF

I love my wife and kids, the ex-GF is married with kids, but I think about us being together all the time and can't stop thinking she was who I should have been with.

We knew each other when I was a rising star at my company and the future looked a lot more promising. I'm sure my feelings about her have more to do with what she represents - a time when I was on the verge of major success, which I never achieved because of bad decisions on my part and bad luck.

Given our respective situations it would never be what it was. But, almost everyday I think about how much better my life might have been if she had said yes when I asked her to get married.

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  • Our view of the past ALWAYS lies at one very-far end of the spectrum or the other; never in the middle and never near a fair measure of the actual events. Either we demonize it, and think it was worse than it was (consider a divorced friend's view of his or her first marriage: it was god-awful and unredeemable). Or else we glamorize it, and think it was better than it was, which is likely about where you are: the romantic and exciting (and probably sexually-charged) memory of your girlfriend is uncomplicated by and uncontaminated with the realities of an ongoing relationship where you spend so much time just dealing with life and getting to the next day. There's no harm in looking at the past, but you have to try to view it honestly and with clarity, and without what they refer to as rose-colored glasses. Good luck to you, my friend.

  • The past is dead.Forget about it. As the old saying goes, no use crying over spilled milk.

  • That does suck. What can I say? You promised your wife your love...ask her if she would let you say your old gf's name while you f*** her...that's as close as you will ever get.

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