after my daughter was born i didn't

after my daughter was born i didn't feel that maternal bond everyone talked about so i got a blood test done to make sure she wasn't switched at birth...
she wasn't of course and i feel like the worst mother in the world... i've never told anyone

Report this
Today's Best Amazon Deals
The Best USB Travel Charger Is Anker's PowerCore Fusion, According To Our Readers
Available from Amazon
ConfessionPost may receive a commission
Get It On Amazon


  • newest
  • oldest
  • most replies
  • most popular
  • That sounds like post pardom depression

  • I'm a man so maybe I can't say as much. But having a son already, I was a little disappointed when our second child turned out to be another boy. We were hoping for a girl, in order to have one of each gender. Although you could say that I loved the second baby, I didn't have the same bond with him as I did when the first boy was born, mostly because I was dealing with the disappointment of not having a girl. I know it doesn't sound right, because I should've been grateful for having a healthy child and everything, but I was daydreaming, "Can't we just exchange this baby for a girl, like you do with stuff at Wal-Mart?" I know, it's so irrational.

    But I can't remember exactly when, but over the months, I grew to love the second baby as much as the first child. I held him, fed him, washed him, played with him, and cherished him. Over time, he went from being "a baby" to "my baby". I hope the same happens for you.

  • This is actually quite a common problem! You'll grow into it.

  • thank you so much for making me feel better

  • It's okay. At least you are trying to take care of your baby. That's more than can be said for some women.

  • Post partum (or whatever) can last a long time. Try to live through it and it'll get better once the hormones smooth out.

Account Login
Is this post inapropriate?
Is this comment inapropriate?
Delete this post?