after my daughter was born i didn't

after my daughter was born i didn't feel that maternal bond everyone talked about so i got a blood test done to make sure she wasn't switched at birth...
she wasn't of course and i feel like the worst mother in the world... i've never told anyone

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  • That sounds like post pardom depression

  • I'm a man so maybe I can't say as much. But having a son already, I was a little disappointed when our second child turned out to be another boy. We were hoping for a girl, in order to have one of each gender. Although you could say that I loved the second baby, I didn't have the same bond with him as I did when the first boy was born, mostly because I was dealing with the disappointment of not having a girl. I know it doesn't sound right, because I should've been grateful for having a healthy child and everything, but I was daydreaming, "Can't we just exchange this baby for a girl, like you do with stuff at Wal-Mart?" I know, it's so irrational.

    But I can't remember exactly when, but over the months, I grew to love the second baby as much as the first child. I held him, fed him, washed him, played with him, and cherished him. Over time, he went from being "a baby" to "my baby". I hope the same happens for you.

  • This is actually quite a common problem! You'll grow into it.

  • thank you so much for making me feel better

  • It's okay. At least you are trying to take care of your baby. That's more than can be said for some women.

  • Post partum (or whatever) can last a long time. Try to live through it and it'll get better once the hormones smooth out.

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