I think my wife is literally going insane

This is not just a "my wife is crazy" post.

My wife's mother died in her mid-thirties after she had become deemed mentally unfit to keep her children and then died soon after that, found in a hotel room (likely overdosed).

Her sister is a few years older went nuts, started getting paranoid (her neighbor told us about a time when she jumped out of her window screaming about spiders crawling over her). Her sister lost her home and is now in government housing getting some help.

My wife is now in her mid-thirties and for the past year she has been in a depression. She thinks that everyone is out to get her. We cannot have any friends because any time someone does anything that she doesn't like she goes nuts on them and attacks them with every little thing that they have done, blowing up their texts with awful, hateful things.

She thinks that companies are out to get her whenever she isn't satisfied with their service (she is only satisfied if she gets something for nothing).

She can't work for anyone because anything that goes wrong she shuts down and stops going to work because "it's so horrible". And everyone who works knows, nothing ever goes perfectly.

I tried to save her by creating a job for her, bought her a clothing store which she loves and gets to shop and wear all of the clothes from the store and she enjoys working with customers. But then if anything goes wrong (as it always does) she stops going to work, shuts down the shop to get through her little episode. Business ends up dying off and she gets more depressed because her shop is making no money.

Her paranoia was something I could deal with by just agreeing that "ya, so and so is a b****". I tried to tell her at one point that perhaps she was in the wrong but that just turned her anger toward me, so I learned my lesson.

Now she sometimes becomes someone else when she drinks. A violent and even angrier person. She has beat the crap out of me a few times now. Sure, I could have fought her back but the few times I have defended myself, she brings up over and over about how "I hit her".

She becomes this evil person and then forgets about it when she comes back. I have to live with the memory but she doesn't.

After the second time of her beating me, I lost all fight I had left to keep us going. I started looking out for myself and have let her slide to whatever she is to become. I could not lose myself as well. If we are to have any chance at all, I need to be sane when she comes out the other side (if she ever does).

I am now in the process of buying a small house. Whether it will be for me to move in, or her to move in, we are separating. I think that the only chance we have is if she moves into the house and re-starts her life and hopefully snaps out of whatever is going on with her. Otherwise it will be her home after the divorce and she can choose her own path from there. At least I will have done all that I can.

She will not seek counseling. She doesn't believe in it and has gone before with no success.

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  • Same here

  • I know how you feel

  • Your wife is a polygamist. She's married to me too!

  • IF ANY 1% KNOWS MY HUSBAND ANT CAM BLLLL LET HIM NO HIS WIFE NANS IS ALIVE! THANKS

  • My wife now seems to think she is in a narcissistic abusive relationship. HELP

  • I'm sorry about your wife I feel that mine seems the same
    she those not like been around people she knows and she
    hates woman specially any woman who passes near me or that
    I look at some times I'm not a ware of any one near me and
    she screams look at the w****, she things that all woman who
    are not older are whores this is kind of sad and she all ways
    cares about her job but when I get a job she puts it down.
    Her Mother is also Crazy she those not like having her picture taken and both of them hate employers, I also to created for her a business and she seem to have for gotten who created that business. I feel so confuse and don't know what to do she is so depress so untie social.

  • I have dementia since i was 15 years old,what should i do????????

  • Don't know

  • This sounds very much like a true mental illness and not something that can be solved by a counselor at all.

    It will require a psychiatrist who can diagnose her and prescribe the right medication.

    It may not be easy to convince her to get the help she needs, but it could save her life, and the sooner the better as things may get harder to recover from the longer it continues.

    I have been where you are and it is very hard. Please don't give up. Your wife needs you whether she realizes it now or not.

    If you can find allies that can help you care for her and guide her in the right direction that can make a huge difference. If it is people she has her own relationship with, like her immediate family, it may make it easier for her to trust someone when she might not always trust you.

    This is not your wife, it is something that is happening to her. You should always remember that distinction, especially as she will not understand it right now.

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  • HOPE I DONT HAVE THIS GUY UP THERE AS MY HUSBAND SINCE HE IS LIKE ME A PATCH HOLDER BUT FOR THEM HE HE HA HA PRIMARY COLERS BLACK AND WHITE ANT WOOD CAM BLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL BECAUSE I WOULD FEEL A WEE BIT GRUMPY ABOUT NOT GETTING MADDDDDDDDDDD U NO. PRETTY SURE IM FINE WITH MY CHOICES OF FAM SINCE I HAD MUCH PREP FOR BECOMING THE QUEEN OF ENGLAND AT THE AGE OF 7."PRINCE" GOT HIS NEW NAME " " AND I THINK THE ROBBER OF MY MOM'S SAPHIRE RING SUCKS CUZZ IM THE ONE WITHE THE 1ST BIRTHDAY OF9/22/1977!!!! ALONG WITH MY EGGS FOR FAT ASS GORGE EE PORGY PUNK N DIE

  • OP here:
    Last night she called homeland security on me. I have a clearance and she is trying to make me lose it. A divorce is in the works but she talked to a lawyer that told her how to drag it out for over a year and a half.

  • Paranoid schizophrenia.

  • Sounds like a typical wife to me

  • Funny as h***...thats exactly what I thought
    I got the same damn thING and even worse...lmao
    Cure...but don't tell ANYONE...date younger girls who LOVE older men and just smile away as she screams and Soon she will turn to accusing you of ignoring her...as she talks you just talk about anything because that's all they really wanna do is just babble..so babble back....retreat to your room cause your prob like me and she don't sleep with ya...and text your gf's all night smiling. Oh...a harley helps too..do some rallies..a lot of the woman are nice and dono mind if your married if you are honest ...it stays within the group..never met a rat yet ...good luck

  • This sounds like schizophrenia. it runs in my family, and my brother is currently suffereing from it. it completely deludes their minds... he is suspicious of everyone. thinks that there are conspiraceys about mega-coorperations and that the government is watching him. also that his house is bugged and hollywood producers are listening to his movie ideas and that he is owed millions of dollars for his ideas. and its REAL to him because thats how it is for schizo's. every delusion is real to them. the only thing that'll help is medication, a pill a day, or a shot every month. as long as he's on his meds he's a bit saner. get your wife or girlfriend or whatever checked into a mental facility (they'll prolly only keep her there for three weeks - first visit). remember, if they are threatening or are causeing harm to others or themselves, they need help. i urge you. the longer they stay off their meds, the worse it gets, and the longer it takes for the meds to work once their on them. and its one thing if she's just being a bitchy c***, then cut the b**** loose, but if it turns out (as it sounds) that a mental illness runs in her family (females, it seems) then she'll need your support to get through this. and its hard... but if you love her then she's worth it. good luck dude

  • Speak with your family doctor about it. He may have some suggestions. Schizophrenia may be a possibility. She really needs to be properly evaluated. Given the family history, it does not sound like a few counseling chats would do anything for her. Just like a diabetic, she may well need a lifelong treatment of drugs and therapy to manage her problems

  • I think you are right, she need help,

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