I need advice...

Im a 14yr old girl and i think i may be bi. But i don't really understand it, i want a boyfriend, but i wouldn't mind having a girlfriend. I just want to be loved by someone, anyone, im sick of being alone when everyone else around me isnt. Being alone makes me so depressed, so unhappy... im even having thoughts of suicide, its not like anyone would miss me. I have a really good friend, she's my best friend and i think i might have some feelings for her, but its not like ill ever tell her that or anything because i dont wanna risk losing my best friend due to my intimate feelings about her. What do i do?



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  • Have you heard of The Trevor Project? It's for basically helping young people who are having issues with sexual identity issues - http://www.thetrevorproject.org/

  • A good source of help is childine - childline.org.uk which lets you talk to counsellors about things like sexual identity, depression and suicide one-on-one over the internet completely anonymously. Definitely a good idea to talk to someone if you're feeling this depressed.

  • All of those other comments were pointless really... but hunny whoever you are, I really wish you wouldn't think of being suicidal. Yeah maybe you are feeling lonley latley, or worthless but you aren't. You mean alot to somone somewhere whether either of you know it or not. My very bestfriend in the world is bisexual and she has girlfriends here and there, but it's okay. Understand that you are going to feel how you feel, & no one should change that. Yeah some people will hate, but let them. They will do what they want. As for you possibly liking your bestfriend, i don't know what you're going to do, but maybe just let time pass, & see where these feelings take you. Don't feel lonly, wake up and show confidence, even if you don't have any, nobody needs to know that. Don't ever be ashamed of who you are. Let people in to your world & even take an extra step into someone else's. Be happy, because being sad is no fun (:

  • If you're feeling depressed or suicidal, what's important is that you talk to someone. There's lots of people who can help - if you're in the US try http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ (or call 1-800-273-8255), or in the UK there's the Samaritans at http://www.samaritans.org/ or Papyrus (which is a charity set up for young people) at http://www.papyrus-uk.org/more/hopelineuk. If you're elsewhere, try googling "suicide helplines"
    Some of them you can text or email if you'd rather not talk.

  • I know how you feel.. Except I can't imagine myself dating a girl, just for s** . I thinks it's perfectly normal for you to develop these kinds of feelings. :)

  • I am a gay teenager and have had the feeling of lonliness for a while. I know for a fact i'm 100% gay but i habe a feeli i want a girlfriend...thus is only because of the lonliness. Although you might be bi but there is a bigger chance of you being straight and lonely. :D

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