The spark is long gone

I've been in a very committed relationship for 3 years now, none of that on-again off-again stuff, this has been 3 years straight, good and bad, ups and downs, we've been through a lot. But the problem is that the spark is long gone. When we see each other its not exciting anymore, when I talk to him on the phone at work its not special or anything, its just routine. "Hey, what are you up to? Did you eat yet?" We never have anything to talk about unless its worrying about money or disagreeing on something.
He tries bless his heart, he spent more than $400 for a nice night on Valentines Day, we got the honeymoon suite at a nice hotel, he took me to a really nice restaurant for dinner, got me flowers, and the nice ones too, not walmart stuff. Champagne, rose petals, and all night I was preoccupied with work. The night itself was somehow not exciting enough to make me forget about it. Its not that I didn't appreciate the trouble he went through, I did. But I just didn't feel romantic at all that night.
I'm not sure what I can do to fix this. I want it to be like other couples', this is something that usually happens to married couples, and we're not even engaged.

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  • I agree wih everything everyone has said, you can also spice up your s** life and try new things as well.

  • What kind of spark are you hoping for? It sounds like you want someone else...or you need to become someone else. Not the kind of person who thinks about work when their boyfriend makes a huge effort for Valentine's Day. You sound like you're spoiled...or the more boring one.

  • Oldman unloads STDs into young hookers p**** hole.

  • Yes it is normal. However, relationships are hard - and hard work. You both need to try and put put effort in to it. it's easy to just walk away, but you can regret it if yo don't try. If you really care about the guy and want to work on it then try different things to spice it up. Make it fun, leave him notes in his pockets or briefcase or car (miss you, hi sexy, etc.).... don't talk to him much at work (or limit it, this way you have more to talk about at home). Go away on vacation, or stay home and have some wine or harder things (my preference is tequila rose, you can purchase it with the game of love 19.99). What can be real fun is role playing, this way "it's not really him" lol.

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