Companion Confusion - Heart or Head?
I recently moved to a new city on term employment and met another man, who just so happened to be on a contract at the same company.
It turns out that he is miserable in his new position, and wants to move to a different city and get a different job, but doesn't have any idea when this will happen.
We saw each other for about 3 weeks before we decided to go away one weekend on vacation together, and it was great. It was a roadtrip, so we spent a lot of time together, and there has never been a dull moment in the conversation.
Ever since the vacation we have been together almost every day (when we are in the same city together). In my mind, I have taken this as that he is quite interested in me.
To make things more complicated, he has a very ill family member which he goes home to visit every now and then, and it consumes a lot of his thoughts.
We recently had a chat about where we stood in our relationship, and it didn't quite have the outcome that I had hoped. He basically told me that he has several priorities right now, and a relationship is pretty low on the list, especiall when getting another job is high on the list, and involves moving out of this city (where I don't plan on leaving for the time being). He said that even if we were together for another few months, he would still leave if he was presented with another job opportunity.
I am an emotionally attached guy, and I already have strong feelings for him, but I feel that now he might not share these.
During our conversation he said that the time we spent together was welcome "distraction" to his complications in his life at the moment, and he enjoyed the companionship. He also said that he hasn't slept with someone else, and hasn't been looking, but if the opportunity presented itself, he would most likely do it.
His mouth seems to say one thing, but his actions say another.
This morning he told me he thought we should take a break for a couple weeks to give him some space to think and get things completed, but then he asked me out to dinner this evening?!? (Am I crazy for saying yes?)
He said he is hot and cold (especially now in his life), and usually is fine until someone has expectations of him (I said I was looking for a committed relationship), and then once there are expections he distances himself.
In my opinion if I don't give it a shot and just see where it goes, I'll never know what could have been (my heart speaking), but then there is a part of me that says he can't give me what I'm looking for right now, and you most likely will end up getting hurt (my brain speaking).
What do you think?