My life

I am a 20 year old female virgin. I have never had a boyfriend.I have never kissed a boy, nor has any boy touched my body in a sexual way. I am basically a virgin to all things. (except I have had o****** before, funny how that works out) My view of the world is so cynical that I do not give out my trust to people, I already have the thought in my head that if I get a boyfriend or girlfriend (im bisexual)they will cheat on me or do something equally horrible. I hate the thought that i would fall in love with someone just to have them tear my heart apart. So I keep myself aloof. Here is my problem I don't want to be a virgin for life and I would like to experience having another person in my life but I don't know how to go about that. Any advice would be welcome greatly.

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  • Have a b/f on line you can have cyber s** it's the safest s** you will ever have

  • Hay so you want some kinkyy fun,,u can watch me slip into womens lingerie then we go have some fun

  • Wanna marry me :D ?

    Stany A.Ahimsha

  • Jealousy is a useless emotion that benefits no one. Have s**, be safe, have fun...simple. You're making it WAAY too complicated. One of the biggest problems is women especially have a very difficult time separating s**/l*** from love/romance. The two can coincide by no means are they mutually inclusive.

  • First you make the generalization that all women are looking for love when that is not necessarily true, i personally have no problems forming a relation with someone that is just s**, but like i said above you cannot trust people, and that goes for those who like to lie about the fact of whether or not they have an STD, yeah i would like to continue my life of being free of any nasty diseases. all of the things they say about having the person test themselves in front of you is crap also because they can have it in their system and it wont show unless there has been a certain amount of time before the test. so forgive me for being cynical when there are people out there like that who don't care enough about their partner to not spread the s*** they got. don't just assume that i haven't thought of all of this and considered all of the choices there are, just because i didn't post it about does not mean i didn't give it serious thought. for that reason i am trying for a relationship instead of just sleeping around, less of a chance from me catching something i don't want that way.

  • Thanks for the advice, but I don't know how to date or to get started with dating. I am so used to being by myself that I normally just brush off any advances some makes towards me. Being that most of them are from guys on the streets in their forties, I have very little experience when it comes to flirting or anything related to dating.

  • Start by telling your friends that you're interested in meeting someone and that you're ready to date. Maybe one of them has a single guy to set you up with. College is a great place to meet guys. Are you going? Go to events or join groups, take a dance class, learn golf, join a group sports. What are your interests and hobbies? Go somewhere where you guys can meet men. But you have to get yourself out there. You never know who you may meet in the crowd. Engage in conversations with men and ask questions to get to know someone. Maybe at the end of the conversation, they'll ask you for your number. Or hey, ask them for their number. Join a dating site. Grab some of your single girlfriends and do one of those speed dating events. Just for the experience. A date can be, a hike, dinner, movie..etc. A smile goes a long way. Most importantly, always be yourself and have fun. You'll gain confidence and experience as you go. You'll start to figure out who you like and what you're looking for in another person.

  • A good way to get the ball rolling, conversation-wise, is to ask someone what they do for fun. Not everyone likes their job but everyone enjoys discussing their hobbies and interests.

  • Thank you

  • Life is about taking chances and experiences. You won't die of a broken heart. And you can't go in to any relationship projecting that it will end before anything has begun. Your first step would be to make yourself available and open yourself up to meeting men. Dating can be a lot of fun. You can meet some really great people. Maybe even speaking with a therapist about your fears could help you get through some of the anxiety you feel surrounding love, dating, men, s** etc.

  • That's the risk you take when you open up to someone, they may end up hurting you (or you them). Perhaps it will help to know that most people have had their heart broken at least once, and most people get over it. Odds are you will to.

  • You've created a self fulfilling prophecy. You won't let anyone get close to you because you fear they will hurt you or leave you. But there's an equal chance they won't hurt you. In order to get the fruit, sometimes you have to go out on a limb.

  • Posting here ain't gonna help....

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