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verrrry confused......
ok so a couple fridays ago i met some buddies for drinks after work and while i was there i met this tall brunette. i was straight upfront and told her i was married and had kids but she said no prob and we drank and talked and danced for a couple hours. she invited me back to her place and i admitted i hadnt ever cheated before but she said she was clean and discreet and we would go slow. we went to her apt. and got in bed and kissed and laid together in the dark before i started taking off her clothes and when i did i realized that she was a t-girl. i should of bolted right there but she was so cool and it felt so good to be with her that i stayed and we talked and then we massaged each other and eventually had full **. ive never felt so good in my life. everything she did was magic and everything she did was soooo right. now i cant think about anything but her. i dont think i am gay but i want this t-girl more than i have ever wanted anything and i am even thinking about leaving my family for her. she is amazing and i want to be with her but it makes me feel so confused about my sexuality and my family. i just want her more than anything ever and i could not possibly give her up. i think i love her. i really do.
This is just so ** **. I hope you wind up with the tgirl.
^same here^
Most t-girls are more understanding and better partners and better at ** than women because they understand your needs better and they are willing to focus on making you happy not themselves. Women are selfish. T-girls are selfless. Women are **. T-girls are lovers. You're doing the right thing and I hope you eventually make the right choice. Your wife will never make you as happy as this girl. Never.
thank you so much and your so right about how sensitive she is and how she focuses so much on me. this girl is really amazing. i mean i do love my wife and family but not like lexi who is quickly becoming everything to me. i want her so bad and i love her so much and i cant imagine being without her not ever. thanks again
I had a sort-of similar experience in a bar about five years ago except that once I started making out with her in the bar and we started to grind on the dance floor (this was maybe on the 4th or 5th time we'd talked at the bar), I realized what she was and realized I'd been wanting to cheat with someone like her, and I got nervous and scared and left. I never went back to the bar to look for her, though I wanted to, and every time I think about her even now, I get aroused and wish I had followed through. Please don't let social conventions keep you from being with someone who is as good for you as this girl seems to be. Take my advice......AT LEAST give the relationship a chance to see where it goes!
i appreciate your support and i really am going to try at this so hard to make it work and see how it develops. i am sorry you had a regretful experience but i hope for you that you find another t-girl like my lexi and that you can grow a relationship with her. it can happen. dont ever give up on your dream!
Are you sure this is an "either/or" situation? Do you have to give up wife and family in order to be with this girl? Can you not have them both?
its possible i guess but my feelings for lexi are so strong and so powerful that they are crowding out all thoughts of my wife and family and all i want is her. she hasnt put any demands on me to leave home in fact she said she wouldnt do that. but...........she does say that if i ever decide to leave and be only with her that she will end all the other relationships she has and be only with me. she doesn't say she loves me in those words but i feel it from her whenever we are together or even talking on the phone. she is amazing.
verrrrrry sick........
Totally perverted **.
I bet ** and conversations with your wife was pretty good at first, too.
I say dump your family & be with that girl. You're doing your wife and family a huge favor. I mean, who wants to be with an unfaithful loser? If you want to have ** with other people, divorce your wife first!
i think it may come to a divorce because all i can think about is her and all i really want is her. she is so amazing.
First of all, she's a girl, so you're not gay. Second, you need to take a giant step back and look at this situation objectively. You're infatuated with this girl which means that right now you're not thinking clearly. You need to give yourself some time and space to figure things out and that means NOT seeing her for a while. I'm going to assume you still love your wife and your kids and don't want to hurt them. You've got a lot to lose here buddy so don't rush into anything you're going to regret later. Truth is, you don't really know anything about this girl so before you do anything you can't take back make sure you're prepared for the consequences of your actions. Good luck!
^^ Best advice ^^
thank you so much for your encouragement and for being so clearheaded about this situation. i admit that i am not clearheaded at all about lexi or about my love for her or about our ** which seems to just get better and better every time were together. i have never experienced anything so intense or so beautiful or so powerful and all i want is MORE! thank you.
I'm proud of you for being open-minded and going with the flow, although she probably should have been more open with you about it. trans girls just want to be treated like regular ole girls. you did the right thing with that, at least. the cheating was kinda messed up and i don't know what to tell you on that except follow your heart, and don't act too quickly, whatever you decide. proceed with caution. also, being with a trans girl doesn't make you gay. she's a girl, and if you're a guy who likes girls, then you're not gay. :P
Totally right here^^. The heart wants what the heart wants, and you can't change that. If your new girl makes you happier than your wife, well then you know what you need to do. And like the initial commenter, I applaud you for opening your mind -- and your body -- to this girl who seems to know better how you please you. Congrats! And best wishes!
omg thanks to both of you for being so positive! i feel so twisted into knots about this. part of it is family obligation of course but so much more of it is the idea that I've been converted to being 'gay'. but i swear to god that there is never a second when i'm with lexi or thinking about her that i think of her as being a man. not even when she is inside my body and pushing to go deeper. i mean i realize that what we are doing is not conventional ** but i only think of it as being so different and so much better than that. and i love pleasing her and making her ** in me or on me or around me and i feel like that is my purpose on earth, to make her as happy as she can be. thank you for making this about love and not about perversion. thank you!
Obviously, you're going to do what you want. But what you're hung up on is **, it's not love. And a t-girl isn't a girl, unless his ** is removed..and sounds like it's intact. You should leave your wife, it's not fair to her. You say you love your family.. Your wife didn't sign up for this. She shouldn't have to wait around for you to figure your ** out while you put her at risk. You probably have been confused for a long time. Then you can be with this "girl" Lexi all you want. Keep in mind, Lexi is sleeping with lots of other partners without the use of condoms (and most likely her partners aren't using protection). If you two are using them, why would she be with anyone else? And if she's a party girl, chances are a lot of drugs and multiple partners are involved. So the reality is, you are at risk for contracting HIV and Hep C and other STDs and sadly passing it on to your wife..because of your indecision. Man up, just divorce your wife it's the nicest thing you can do for her and your family at this point.
You could be right that its only ** and not love but the feeling i have is so much stronger than I ever had before about any woman including my wife and it is all-consuming to me. i have to say you defenately are totally right about several other things you said (almost scary). lexi is totaly still intact and her '**' (what she calls it) isn't very thick but it is loooong and really beautiful and delicious and i cant get enough. another thing that you got right somehow (which is amazing) is that she has several other partners. she has a married boyfriend who takes care of her so i can only see her when she isn't with him. he is her main relationship for almost 3 years. she sees other men when she doesn't have a date with him which is what happened with me that night. but since we met she has only gone with men other than him when i cant see her and she says she will end all those relationships if i decide to leave my family though she doesn't pressure me for that. as for protection we talked about that for a long time the first night and since i was a t-girl virgin she let me decide whether to use it but she told me that it would feel so much more intimate and pure "without anything between us" and since we had already gone so far by that time i said i wanted to feel her completely no matter who was inside who so we didn't use it. she asked me the second night and i said i didn't ever want anything between us. i haven't had ** with my wife since lexi and i met and i wont until i decide what to do so she isn't in danger of catching anything. lexi swears shes clean and gets tests all the time and i trust her completely. lastly i think that divorce is probably what will happen but i still have that doubt about what you first said, ** versus love, and about me being gay without realizing it since i think of lexi as a real true pure woman and nothing else. i want her so bad that i think this must be love. thanks for sharing your thoughts.
** off, t-girls are absolutely girls, you don't get to say what someone else's gender is, only they do. Their squishy parts have **-all to do with it.