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Male infertility is just as devestating as female infertility
So much is written about female infertility and how when a woman can't have a baby its so often devastating to her. Much less is written about male infertility and how much it damages them. I am male and infertile and I suffer from as much shame and embarrassment as an woman who can't have a baby. Society often views women's role as a caregiver and mother but it's also the men who have a hand in bringing children into the world. When a man can't have children he is looked down upon as less than a man. It's supposed to be a man's job to spread his seed. Men with lots of children are viewed as powerful and virile. Men who can't get a woman pregnant are said to shoot blanks. What can be more damaging to a man's ego than to "shoot blanks". It means he is powerless and on par with being impotent. What woman wants to have a husband who can't give her a child? An infertile man can't pass on his genes. He is often viewed as useless as a mate. My point is that infertile men suffer just as much as women.
Well we have something in common. I am sterile too. Born that way. That's where the commonality stops. Instead of gather friends to your pity party and giving society free reign over what is good and proper in your life you need to shut that ** out. Your still a man, a bruised ego yes indeed but still a man. There are other ways to be a father. You got Donor insemination, surrogates, Adoption. Yes. I agree men suffer as much as women but stop putting everything on a pedestal. You shouldn't put so much pressure on yourself having to conform to the whims of others. I was diagnosed with Klinefelter Syndrome at 21. I was devastated because being a father is something I always wanted. Life throws curve ** all the time, you can sit around a cry about it or you can do something. I don't give a ** about society.
If I were you I'd count my lucky stars. Babies ruin your life!
But if you really feel the need to play a part in taking care of a child, there are uncountable numbers of children stuck in the foster care/adoption system that could use you. Don't listen to society's stupid **. They don't know anything. Whenever someone tells you "it's not the same unless it's your own flesh and blood", disregard anything else they say after that. You are not less than a man. You're gifted with the choice to live your own free life unburdened by children if you wish. I WISH my boyfriend shot blanks, that would save my life a lot of trouble! lol
So your children provide no joy to your life? Some awful advice to give a hurting man. Guess you should have taken birth control then.
Hey r3tard, how about keeping your mouth as shut down as your brain is? THERE. ARE. TOO. MANY. PEOPLE. ON. THIS. PLANET. And that is in part because people (like you) think nothing of shooting out baby after baby after baby because... stupid, selfish reasons that always begin with "I WANT".
If you can't care about someone who doesn't carry your DNA, you're a narcissist/sociopath and should have permanent birth control injected into you. Then you'd be able to cry your precious, self-centered little heart out about your "infertility" too.
Ooh, boo hoo. You're going to see more and more of this far more sensible life choice being expressed, in many cases because people these days are still too embedded in the "it's all about ME" phase to want to be responsible for a screeching potato.
That said, what's wrong with adoption? What's wrong with knowing yourself enough to know kids might not be for you? You sound like one of those bitter infertiles who can't stand the thought of people other than them squirting out babies.
You have a hang up real bad , I am infertile , not a big deal , easy to adopt, no one gives a ** about genes anyway, it is all in your head . There are sperm donors , not a big deal . Adoption is easy also . No problem with male hormones , just no seeds, many thousands of children need parents, idiots nowadays do not give a ** about their kids , many do not hang around to be fathers . Women do not care either , you do not want a woman to get pregnant anyways unless she is mature and ready to be a mother and a wife . Stupid ** today are so ** immature . Lots of women out there with children and no father . I date a woman with two children , her husband left and can not be found , she is very beautiful , the kids are so small they will never know whom is their real father . The woman is just glad someone loves her . This is a fake worry
Men are not encouraged to share their feelings in our society. We're told to just '** it up'. Is it any wonder we die sooner?
Women are not encouraged to be anything other than perfect, pleasant, and eternally about 19 in our society. We're told we're worthless if we don't play into that. Is it any wonder we're GLAD you die sooner?
But now that everybody is "fluid" none of this matters. All that dumb teenage boy-girl stuff is even more invalid now, unless the teenagers want to advertise to the world that they're actually more bigoted than they want everyone else to think.
If you're a girl and a boy is "driving you crazy", you are a bigot. If you're a boy and pop a ** every time a hot girl walks by, you are in denial of your hidden pansexuality. Have fun figuring out all that gender syntax and never, ever stepping on anyone's toes EVER, even as a mistake, because if you do and it's filmed (which it will be), the footage WILL be distributed to the rest of the world, either next week or 40 years from now. That's how society is now.
What a lovely little world you're setting up for yourselves with all this self-congratulating #hyperwoke **! Don't mind me, I'm over here enjoying my popcorn. xD