Just not there

I am in this relationship with a really amazing guy, but sometimes it seems as if he's lost in a daydream. He told me to avoid asking about his past/childhood and i can't help but wonder if that has something to do with it. From having a troubled childhood myself I know it can be hard to talk about it, but I wish he would try to open up. I will not force him to do anything he doesn't want to; it's just i really want to know why he zones out and almost is brought to tears. He told me that he just had something in his eye, but i knew those were tears of pain. I can't help but wonder if it was pain from a past relationship, or from some horrific childhood memory.

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  • I dated a girl once who was the same way. On some days, we were connected and had a blast; on other days she seemed to be detached and "off into the ether." I learned that she had been abused as a child, and was going through therapy for it. She was in her 40s at that time. Although she was smart, had a great job, and made a lot of money, she had difficulties with personal relationships. My advise would be patient with him and maybe suggest that he get help for any prior issues down the road. If you have just started dating him, give it some time. Be patient.

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