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Feelings for a Married Man
Reconnected with old friend (20+ years) and he kissed me at the end of the night. Friendly kiss.... but sparks flew and we both knew it. Nothing more happened, we were smart enough to say good night and part ways. Now he's getting a divorce - partly because of what happened with us.
I feel terrible guilt over this. In reality, his marriage was over years ago for a lot of reasons. I do love this man and it would be interesting to give it a try once his divorce is done and he has had time to heal.
The worst part is that while we have an amazing connection and our friendship is so "easy", his kids hate me. Their mom told them we had been having an affair for "years" which is a complete fabrication.
Should I walk away? Or give this friendship a chance to blossom into something potentially amazing?
Fvck the kids and soon-to-be ex-wife. Apparently you're already a villain. First commenter below has the right idea-- take a few steps back, keep your eyes open-- but to ghost the guy completely won't do either of you any favors. And the ex-hag-to-be and her mouthy spawn "win", merely by talking $hit. She's losing her spouse because she's been horrible for years, so of course anyone stepping into her spot is going to be considered Satan. Sounds like she's had quite a few years to build up bitterness and hateful stories. Get with YOUR man and relocate to another state! Good luck.
If you pursue him then, You will make a fabricated story true.
There is no easy answer here. Sometimes, it really is best to take a few steps back, let the situation resolve itself without taking any action on your own, except to remove yourself from the situation. If your relationship with this guy is meant to be, it will happen without you doing anything to bring it about. Keep yourself available, but uninvovled. And good luck.