Comparing relationships

I compare my relationship to that of what my housemates has with her boyfriend.

Me and my boyfriend have known each other for 6 years, he is an ex of about 5 years ago, we both live in different cities, since we broke up 5 years ago he has gone on to have two children and other relationships, I have had relationships but nothing serious, we have always kept in contact and for what ever reason he has always been in my head. We started dating again about 3 months ago, he makes me laugh, he makes me happy etc, but he is just soo laid back, more laid back then I remember from all those years ago. We don't talk every day, sometimes I mistake is laid backness for not caring, I know he cares about me, and I think he is serious about me as I met his daughter last week, I guess I just miss him loads.

My housemate and her boyfriend, they met online about 2 months ago and have entered in a relationship, they see each other more then what me and my boyfriend do as work commitments, and his kids, they chat every day, they are always txting, they just seem like they are in honeymoon stage, I feel that I have missed out on that, I know his kids comes first and I accept that, would have it any other way, and I dont know if we have missed the honeymoon stage because we have known each other for so long.

I just want to stop comparing the relationships as they are different, mine comes with baggage which I accept happily and her's doesn't.

I care about him a lot, but have been badly hurt in the past and don't want to get hurt again, or make things up in my head and cause a problem in my relationship when there isnt one just because of my insecurities, he means the world to me.

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  • Everyone has different types of relationships. Relationships are hard and change and they take a lot of understanding and wisdom or experience and willingness to keep learning and accepting what life brings to their relationship. They are not for everyone and peoples needs or wants and feelings or priorities change for everyone so that's another reason relationships are so tricky or complicated or hard to maintain. For your bf his kids are now his life or priority. He may not be the guy for you or what you want at this time in YOUR life. You only have ONE life so whatever it is that makes or fulfills your life that is what you must seek out or experience or do or your life will be wasted on thinking too much about stuff. Hope this helps.

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