Don't know where to start

So this kind of falls in the love category, but also s** category as well. I have a problem with relationships: whenever a guy may be/is interested in me, I tend to 'flee' or tend to avoid all contact with them. I don't exactly know if this is a fear of s** in the future of a relationship, a fear of intimacy??
I will say that the first 'relationship' I had was in the middle of high school and I'm verging on junior year of college now. Everything was running smoothly with the guy but then he made a 180 and starting being controlling, manipulative - he made me feel bad that I didn't want to have s** with him (was only 16). Granted he was a lot older but still. Also my parents got divorced so that plays into the equation.
I believe the component of being vulnerable comes into play here as well. I won't even go to the gynecologist - feel uncomfortable even when my mom talks about it.
But back to the relationships thing, any thoughts or advice??

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  • Dont give guys s**. As soon as they make that they are looking for their next conquest. The middle ground is intimacy. You know touching, teasing, flirting, doing stuff together. But no s**.

  • You are smart to feel this way!

    Concentrate on college and career first.

    Also, Avoid anyway who manipulates, don't ever let a guy rush you into anything, that is usually a red flag that he's a s***!

    You'll be ok - no one likes the gyno ;)

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