I made sure to tell my boy friend I loved him before asking him. Told him I wanted him to watch another guy performing oral s** on me. It shocked him, but I told him it was a fantasy I had and nothing to do with me loving him any less. He thought about it for a couple of days and then ask me witch one of his friends I felt attracted too. Turn out to be his cousin to keep it in the family. I think it made our s** life a whole lot better and know we tell each others all our secret sexual desires.