My boyfriend refuses to punish his daughter, I want to leave but
My boyfriend is generally a nice guy, he works hard and we get on well most of the time. He's a single father ( because mother of his daughter wouldn't look after her properly and is not allowed contact now)
He has had full custody since she was 6-7 and I got with him when she was 8 and my son was then 5.
Anyway whilst he's at work her grandparents look after her, take her to school etc.
My issue is, is that she is now 12 and a right little madam. She still calls him daddy which I have mentioned to him on numerous occasions makes me feel uncomfortable, she snuggle sup to him on the couch and rubs her b****** all over his arm and blows him kisses etc, again I have told him it makes me uncomfortable. She also still goes into shower room and shouts " daddy I have forgotten how to turn the shower on again, can you show me" and he will go in there to do it for her, often she has undress at this point.
He never punishes her for bad behaviour either, she whinges all day if we go out for a walk " I font want to walk, why do I have to walk, Id rather be at home on my ipod ". Last week she had a complete meltdown in a shop against her grandparents. They were returning an item of clothing that dont fit her and she had a right fit because the only other top there that would fit her was £12 but the original top was £13. She stamped her feet, crossed her arms and shouting and pointing at her 75+ yr old grandparents. I heard about if from the boyfriend and I asked " well what are you going to do about it, she can't behave like that" he snarled and snapped at me " what do you want me to do, she has nothing o can take off her. But she has ipod, TV, laptop, phone, cd player, cinema visit on weekend. He could take any of these but refuse to punish her. So she got away with bad behaviour again. It's the same thing every week, she does summit wrong and he doesn't sort it. I shout at her and she goes whinging to him. My son is 9 and has adhd and he doesn't behave like this. This is purely bad parenting, my son manages with a strict routine and I am always correcting amy of his negative behaviour. He most certainly wouldn't have a tantrum like that in a shop!!!!! I'd expect it from a 1-5 year old but she's 12...
I am considering leaving him because it stress me out, I feel like I'm constantly fighting to keep our relationship above board and she constantly drivers a wedge. It's all because he won't punish her, if he started punishing her it would probably only take 6 months to get her sorted. I mean she's soooo disobedient. And she lies too, my son can be naughty at times but if I ask him.summit he would never lie to me. She lies to me when I ask if she has brush her teeth " yes I brushed them " but her toothbrush is bone dry!???? She thinks I'm stupid. She's a hateful little witch and I don't want to deal with it anymore but I love my boyfriend. I just don't think it's worth my effort anymore