My life SUX

I am posting here because there is absolutely no one in the world I can talk to about all of the things going wrong in my life right now. I'm just going to make a list because it seems the easiest thing to do.

This was my actual day yesterday - no exaggeration, nothing made up, completely my life:

1. 6:50 am - 21 year old son (who lives at home and attends college) calls to say he had a wreck on way to work and his car is totaled. Go pick him up from ditch and talk police officer out of filing report. Only liability insurance and still paying off car

2. 7:00 - Husband blames me for rushing son out of the door therefore causing him to speed and have accident

3. 9:00 - Go to Police department to pick up accident report from daughter's car accident last week (not her fault but totaled MY car)

4. 2:00 pm - Take son to court for failure to register new car which was just totaled (he got the ticket months ago)

5. 4:00 pm - Take 14 year old daughter to Physical Therapy

6. 5:30 pm - pick up pizza on way home

7. 6:00 - 23 year old bipolar daughter (who lives at home) calls to tell me she hit someone while texting. No car damage but woman is faking injury.

8. 7:30 - 21 year old son "runs away from home"

9. 7:45 - Husband tells me we are about to lose our house and me and kids can move to apartment and he will find somewhere else to live

10. 9:00 - Take 2 valium and go to sleep

Keep in mind, my husband has not worked in over ONE YEAR after he quit a job making $120,000 out of the blue. Is not currently looking for work. I graduated college in May and cannot find a job - I have brought home a little under $5000 this entire year from substitute teaching. Have 2 kids in college and 1 in private school.

I am at my absolute wits end. Looking for jobs and sending out applications like crazy. Most of the time I think I would be better off without him but something is holding me here. Been married for 26 years and its getting old.......

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  • All I can say is DAMN!!!!

  • Take what money's you have and go get a full body massage from a guy masseuse and let him know you're up for anything.. Babee, you need to get laid!

  • Here's a group of people who need to stop driving.......

  • That stinks... I'll be praying for your situation.

  • Sucks. But sounds like your kids have no responsibility. They are adults. Let them handle s** t themselves.

  • I read your narration with deep sense of empathy. A lot of folks have had enough confusion from a "confused world" to last for a life time! Lack of "personal identity" can bore oneself sick even to having suicide thoughts . Have I once considered suicide in my life? Yes .. . and indeed, many folks you see that walk the streets are full of challenges and pains that were inflicted or innate. I thought I will not be able to achieve anything because I was abused as a child (this is usually a trigger), lived in a home that always felt like an explosive device was about to ignite. I struggled with these feelings and tried to fill the void via alcohol and "street smokes". I found fake boldness that was transient. I envied and wanted to be like others. I began to steal.

    Well, I am an adult now, well educated, employed, married, had kids, drug/alcohol/smoke free, and really free from all my demons. How? Yes, I know that this will be the question in your heart. It sounded foolish and dreamlike but it was real. Someone gave me a copy of "New Testament and Psalms and proverbs"; a little blue covered book which could fit into my pocket. I began to read it from "The Gospel of John" like he advised me. I love reading and it made sense. Well, I may not be able to tell you all that happened to me but I discovered that as I read it daily, I began to be attracted to and talk to the main character in the story; Jesus and it seemed like and old self of mine was dropping off daily. At some point , I was shocked when I was out with my friends and realized that I hadn't touched alcohol in the past 2 weeks! . And the stranger thing was that alcohol lost its appeal to me. In fact, it disgusted me. My friends told me that they will "give me just three months" and I will drink myself to stupor like before. well it has been years and I keep getting better; more pleasant than the person I ever tried to be.

    Dear, Jesus is beautiful.

  • Oh gosh. When it rains it pours. One thing at a time. One day at a time. Thankfully, everyone is okay. Because like with all things that seem bad. It can always be worse. And hopefully, one day you can look back at this terrible time and laugh. Your husband - I can understand not liking your job and quitting to pursue other interests. But not when you have a family and house. That is terribly not responsible of him. And why has he not even attempting to to get a job? Is he sick? depressed? Or as the other commenter mentioned - a drug addict? Maybe he does need to be out of the house and as much as it is not under consideration - maybe divorce him and and sue for alimony and his IRA and whatever else. Sell the house etc.. Him quitting his job, is a big F-U to you and the entire family. Hire a lawyer. Make sure he hasn't been hiding money in other bank accounts that you are unaware of. It actually sounds like he's up to something. IDK, something has to light a fire underneath him. The kids who are over 21 - can start taking the bus or find another used car so they can get around. One idea..keep looking for work. Something will come around. And have you ever thought of being an UBER driver? Understandable that you may have car problems with all of the car issues recently, but you could make some money to take care of some bills.

  • Oh dear, I actually feel your desperation!

    1.). Your husband is either a drug addict/a******, or just an a******.

    2.). God is trying to tell you - you are on the wrong path.

    3.). Leave that a****** husband of yours.

    4.). Get your kids bicycles ;)

    5.). Laugh, take a deep breath & leave that a******.

    6.). I'll be praying for you sister!

  • How will God hear your prayers with all these curse words? Don't you think both need prayers

  • Lighten up Framcis

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