Moving in?

So I'm 19 years old and just finished my first semester of college. Before attending college I met someone who became my boyfriend months later and ever since then we have been spending every night together at his home. We each live our own lives-school, work, and socially- and at the end of the day we are able to enjoy each other's company and fall asleep. Recently, my mom has expressed her disagreement with this, which is understandable since it isn't traditional. I just don't know what to do. Do I listen to my mother? Even though I see nothing wrong with it...not to mention that it hasn't caused any grades to slip or any interference. We simply like spending the night together. What do I do?

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  • You're old enough to figure out what you want but there is actually no reason to move in with your boyfriend. You never know what is going to happen if you should do so. Living together is a lot different from dating. So listen to your Mother on this one - she knows best in this case. Take care.

  • DONT MOVE IN TOGETHER OFFICIALLY. something will happen... and when it does, one of you having to move out will just be another thing that breaks one of your hearts. i mean, I'm not saying you're too young, but do you honestly think you're gonna marry this kid? don't do it

  • You are an adult, so you can probably do what you want. But if you're asking, then maybe there is some doubt there. And that's not a bad thing. If your parents are supporting you, then they may be able to still have a say as to who you live with. Here are some pros and cons to living with someone. When you live with someone you REALLY get to know someone. Their moods, their habits etc..and sometimes it's not pretty. It can teach you a lot about who you are and your S.O. Because it's not about having a roommate, where you sleep in different bedrooms. Meaning you are forced to deal with uncomfortable situations and not run to a different room. So it can either strengthen your relationship or tank it. Considering that you are still fairly young and still in school, this really has nothing to do so much with your parents..just about life in general. You've only been dating him for some months. He should still be taking you together may not be as romantic as it sounds. You should keep your own place. Make time for him, but don't forget your other friends.. your friends are important whether you are in a relationship or not. Create balance. It's not just about being traditional's just about forming a healthy relationship. Spend time with him, sure..but keep a balance. Maybe consider that after you graduate you move in. That way you've been together longer. But encourage that he still takes you out and you don't just go over to sleep.

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