Family confused mother.

During my pregnant my partner was very support he would attend my scans, he would run my feet , made sure I was ok and taken care of in other words he helped me out a lot.
After our son was born he changed it was like he was a total different person. He became more violent towards me, he started cheating by taking other females out, gave me no attention what so ever. I was just the mother of his kid and nothing more. He spent more time away from us than with us. His main priority was to go out with friends or be out partying. Our son is almost 1 year and I've been waiting all this time for the once caring man I knew and love.

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  • Dear Friend,
    Well, he's not coming back. Once someone becomes so disrespect as he has, the last thing that he will ever do is change. So, it's probably better to cut your losses and lose this creep. Contact the national domestic violence hotline 1-800-799-7233 and learn how to get out of an assaultive relationship. You deserve better and so does your child. Therapy will also help. Take care and let us know how things work out for you.

  • Everytime I say I'm finish and it over he makes everything difficult for me he refuses to have him on his designated weekend and he also stop paying half of the childcare fee. He does give me money for our son which is more than the required amount on child support. I haven't had anytime off or any weekend off in 6 weeks I'm so stressed out I have no clue where to go from here. Everything I've tried fails me and works in his favour.

  • ^^^^^ trust me when I tell you this: Get a restraining order for the abuse, go to your local Dta office they will help you apply for housing and help you set up court dates for child custody.& support (don't get your hopes up there - mine actually took me back to court to lower his and won); and you know what it was hard at first, now I have a job I love, friends ;which I was never allowed to have before). Go back to school while your child is young. If you let this continue IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE and will affect your child as well! PLEASE get out of that situation!

  • Ok thanks for ur advice il try this approach.

  • Sounds line my ex. Mine actually told me "now I own you cause you have my baby", and he begged me to get pregnant. Wish I had left him sooner - but I love my son and am grateful to be his mom! For the life of me I will never understand a man who doesn't do right by their child. You think he's violent now? It will get worse - Leave him and don't look back.

  • Sounds line my ex. Mine actually told me "now I own you cause you have my baby", and he begged me to get pregnant. Wish I have left him sooner - but I love my son and am grateful to be his mom! For the life of me I will never understand a man who doesn't do right by their child. You think he's violent now? It will get worse - Leave him and don't look back

  • Your wasting your time lets get to the point here he sabotaged your mind into thinking now that he wants nothing to do with you for the fact that he knows you'll stay and wait he is scared to be alone. Don't waste your time leave him ! Put child support on him. If you are scared because economical issued there's programs out here who help single mothers with low income . Help him or be worthless forever in his eyes

  • Your wasting your time lets get to the point here he sabotaged your mind into thinking now that he wants nothing to do with you for the fact that he knows you'll stay and wait he is scared to be alone. Don't waste your time leave him !

  • You've been waiting for a year for this guy to change back? Think that ship has sailed. You know the truth, you need to accept it. And if you want a reason why, look at your son. His father is a poor excuse for a man. He wants his freedom? He needs a dose of reality. Kick him out of the house (if you live with him) and your bed. Go to court and get him to pay child support. And the only "man" in your life will be your little boy who is your priority.

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