A woman at work

I am happily married man, I work a second shift job as a supervisor and this women confessed to me a while back that she likes me. This has been going on for a while, I originally thought it was just kidding around and banter back and forth but she here recently confessed that she can't stop thinking of me. I mean she is nice and all but I don't love her, and she isn't my wife. And now I find myself wondering, what if. I don't want to throw my marriage down the drain over something so stupid. I think the real issue is that I spend too much time at work, I get to see this woman more than I get to see my own wife. Working 12 hrs a day anywhere from 5to 7 days a week. I am afraid, truly afraid of this issue, because I like the attention, however I can't help but feel like I'm being played. I don't know I am actually really torn up, because I never thought I would do something like this.

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  • Start cutting back on working extra if you can. Also, keep in mid she knows you are married now. She is trying to use you.

  • Think of the future consequences with your marriage and hence your potentially ruined life!

  • To give into your temptation is a good recipe for blackmail down the road. Nip it in the bud right now. If you want to stray, do it with someone who has nothing to gain by having s** with the boss.

  • All I can say from experience is that in the twelve years of my marriage, never once have I looked back and wished I'd given in to the temptations of the occasion women to take interest in me. In fact, I'm relieved and proud to stay faithful. And when I think about workplace romances, I can't help but shudder. Back away, not today, Disco Stu, if you know what I mean. I'm probably not the voice you'd want to hear; I respect my wife and that I know that's not 'cool' in this day and age. It's just so hard to find someone to trust, someone who's got your back. That's what I was searching for in life. Your goals may be different, such as conquest, but it doesn't sound that way, and that's cool, too.

    Anyway, congratulations on making it to supervisor. It's a lot of responsibility and probably not often the most thankful job, and sure sounds demanding, but you work hard and it's important to appreciate the successes. Sounds like you've got a good marriage too, so you're a lucky man who's got it all. Respect for that. You're desirable to women, too, so you got that going for you. There's a fine line between an ego boost and disaster.

    My advice: Yo man,you're King of the Castle! Defend it from the wily she-devil!

    Sincerely,
    Also Working 7 Days a Week

  • Well you haven't done anything yet. You're just keep thinking about how to avoid becoming involved with her. Here's an idea: discuss this with your wife and have you wife come by your job for lunch or dinner 1 or 2 times a month. Make sure that your wife meets her. This should cool things off and help you to keep your focus.

  • Think with your head and not your other head. The attention can be flattering. But if you really think about it and the possible outcomes if you were to pursue something, it's just not worth it in the end. Chances are it would not just be some simple easy one night stand. If she's making it known to you, she's own you in the end. Stop flirting with her.

  • Don't hide anything; tell this woman that you don't like her and she should stop dreaming! Open up to your wife about what's happening and pray about it together. Do fast too so as to be in control of your innate desires.

  • Why do you feel like you are being played? I know quite a few women who can't or don't want to commit to a relationship but still crave men.

  • Elementary dear boy.. You don't appear stupid by what you stated here so just think fundamentals & apply common sense.. Look, right off I see a n***** in the woodpile when you said that this girl confessed that she likes you.. Dames just don't normally do that. Rather, like men they speak that message in other ways by their actions, etc.. Further, they never say they can't get you out of their mind.. You tell us much about this dame either.. Of course you like de attention however don't get blinded.. You may even have a decent marriage.. Even money says this dame is a player, there is no what if, & since you're not going to get torn up over this.. Take this advice : Nip this in the bud because it is stupid, you're working too many hours, & it is not worth trashing your legal vows over.. Dames like this have ruined too many marriages ; DON'T be part of her trophy case..

  • ^Agree.. also you are a supervisor, not only do you have your marriage at stake you also could lose your job. If this woman is so forward, you entering into anything could prove to be a mistake that you can't just brush off. She could get pregnant or even just be psycho and make life very difficult. It's not worth it. Take some time off and go on a vacation with your lovely wife to reconnect.

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