What can I do?

My boyfriend has heart problems, which his lifestyle isn't helping.
He drinks, smokes, has a s*** diet, does drugs.
I need him to stop- to at least try and help himself.
But I can't force him to, we don't work like that and I'd hate forcing him into something.
It doesn't help that I have no right to get him to stop this lifestyle- mine;s the same, if not worse.

But he could die.
And I have no idea what to do.

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  • A s*** diet, thats disgusting if he eats s*** and you kiss him!

  • You DO have a right to pressure him to change. If he expects you to be part of his life, and wants you to forsake other guys for him, then he has a responsibility to be around for you, too. And from the sound of it his life expectancy is gonna be about nil.

  • ^ AGREED! When he sees that it means that much to you, he might actually start thinking.

  • Well, leave his sorry ass then

  • OP: But he'll hate me for it, and won't do it anyway. The only way he'll stop is if he sees sense, but no-one but himself can make him do that.

  • Remember as a child when your parents 'forced' you to do things for your own good? That is what love is. Love is not being silent and is not selfish.

  • Love is sausage and mash.

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