No Way Out

I have been living with my boyfriend for three years. The first year was blissful, the second difficult, the third a living h***. He is emotionally abusive, starts fights over the smallest things, doesn't want to spend time with me, isolates me from my friends, is extremely demanding, insists on controlling all of my money, and routinely makes me feel worthless. I've slowly lost hope that things will ever get better.

I want to end this relationship so badly, but I can't. I have a good job and can support myself, but he can't. He has no savings, his job is not enough to live on, and he has slowly cut ties with all of his friends. If I kick him out, he'll be homeless, and I don't want that to happen. I don't know what to do.

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  • Never believe there is no way out-as there is always a way.
    You need to move away from him and start to be happier again.

  • You must have misread & misinterpreted what this gal wrote. You offer the entirely wrong concept. Running doesn't solve anything ; it is her dwelling to live in.

  • Even in a healthy relationship, you need to take care of yourself. You area letting the abuse dictate your thoughts and actions. You can come up with a lot of excuses. Stop enabling him. The fact is, he can take care of himself. And he will have to figure it by himself. He can no longer be your problem. You almost would be better to actually leave so he has no chance of finding you. The violence is escalating, there is not telling what he is capable of doing. Get your ducks in a row and contact a group to help women who are victims of domestic abuse. They can help you leave the relationship. Because the most dangerous time is when the abuser believes that he is losing control. Make sure that your job knows not to let him in the office/onsite. Make sure your friends know your whereabouts. Makes sure all of your passwords have been changed. Get a plan and then get out.

  • You offer no help whatsoever to this girl. You're nothing but a worthless, sexist troublemaker who knows nothing of what this girl feels. Your androgeny is sickly & perverted. She will do well not to heed or consider a single word you wrote as more directly, you are a sexist pig.

  • Kick him out! His problem is not yours. He is abusive, omg change the locks and get mace

  • His failure to plan should not be YOUR problem... Forever

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