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Loved not wanted?
The title says it all. My boyfriend says he loves me. Holds my hand, cuddles me etc but I don't feel wanted. I truly feel loved but then he does stupid things that make me feel abandoned. For eg, we are on holiday and I've been sleeping on the living room floor on cushions with the baby so he can have the double bedroom to get some rest. The baby's up and down all night so im tired and my back hurts from the floor and he doesn't care. Im not stupid and I know he loves me. Im just very aware he treats me like **.
Unless the relationship is rock solid, kids are tough. I wish hubby and I had waited longer before having our first, because there was a severe disconnect between us by having a child. We got it together, but it took outside therapy to help.
On the one hand when i was forceful and demanding ofmy wife she was more loving and responsive. I mean others thought I was abusive. I'd spank her and force her to wear skimpy clothing and do what I told her to do.
On the other hand it sounds like your man is not looking after you. Maybe try to talk to him about his responsibilities to support you that means love as well as money. If he does not want to do it, go see a lawyer & divorce him. Find love elsewhere.
Stay positive. Kinda the same for me. My wife is older than me by 14 years...I'm 35. I'm dying for romance, affection and the like. Not sure it will ever come back after 15 years together. I dread leaving and starting over, but so desperately wanna kiss a woman and feel her love.
Hang in there. Try talking to him. I think men are easier to talk to then women. ;-)