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How do I help him
My boyfriend is depressed and extremely insecure over his weight. Every day he makes comments about his weight: apologizing for how fat he is, saying how he is going to get fit for me so he won't be fat, and obsessing over new workout/diet plans to lose weight. I don't know how to address it without making him feel worse and I really worry about him. It's to the point where I'm cautious to mention any health/fitness information I've learned -- I've been strength training recently so I read and discuss as much as possible on the subject -- because he will intensely take interest in anything that will help him "lose weight faster".
His weight doesn't bother me. While I am all for being healthy and fit -- because that's what I try to be -- the way he is going about it isn't healthy at all. I don't know how to reassure him that he looks fine the way he is, and that it's okay to be his size. He keeps putting himself in embarrassing/self-loathing situations because he will buy sizes that are smaller than his weight since he seems to be in denial that he isn't where he feels he "should" be, then binge on food to self-heal, sometimes to the point where he pukes.
I could really use some advice, and please, no mean comments on how he should "man up" or anything of the like. A lot of men deal with these sort of insecurities, though it's normally in silence and not as obvious.
Don’t just tell him he’s **. Show him! Grab his belly as you’re blowing him. That kind of thing.
How did things work out? Are used to be depressed about my weight, but then my girlfriend slowly showed me how ** she thinks my weight is. I’ve plumped up since then, but couldn’t be happier.
Get rid of any snacks or binge eating foods in the house.
Stock up on vegetables chicken tilapia salmon lean proteins brown rice And quinoa.
Stock up on water.
Avoid bringing up any diets or plans
Don't change your affection towards him or make him feel any more or less.
Support him go with him to the gym for walks, jogs, etc
Reciprocate more greens and natural eating teas green teas etc
The Blood Sugar diet is excellent. The 8 week programme works well.
1. Get him help for depression.
2. Work on creating a culture in the house of eating healthy foods.
3. Find a fun way of working out with him. Set goals and celebrate them when you achieve them.