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I (sometimes) hate being a mom and wife
Just need to get this off my chest... sorry for any grammatical errors.
so im a mom of two under two; a one year old(ds) and a one month old(dd).
my husband just started working at a new job, my family and friends live close-by, everything seems to be okay so far...except, sometimes, i feel like i hate being a mom and wife.
i dont really mind being with them when everything's going well (clean diapers, clean rooms, nutritious food, enough allowance to get through till payday, etc.).
but that rarely happens...usually it's the exact opposite, and i hate those days so much it gets to the point where i yell at the kids to stfu and blame my husband for having two kids.
i dont know when this phase will end.
im tired of snapping at them.
i want to be a better mom and wife.
thanks for reading...any comments are welcome.
How about you start taking care of your kids. Your life is them now, YOU are the one who decided to have kids. So be a ** adult and do what you chose to start in the first place.
And if I sound a little ** off, it's because I am raising my 3 grandkids. Their mother is a ** drug addicted ** who said the same thing as you before she left. She needed her life back.
I waited until my 30s to get married and have kids. When I did, I had twins. I love my boys, but I wasn't ready for it, tbh. The amount of time I spend dealing with them has been a burden at times. I miss my freedom.
There are going to be good days and bad days with being married and a parent. You just have to choose your battles and figure out a way to strike a balance. Even being single with no kids has its challenges, it's all perspective. Agree with the comment about medication, With a month old it's very possible that you are experiencing post partum depression, go to your doctor at once. Ask for help from your family, friends and especially your husband. Hire or help if u can. One thing with an infant, be sure your child is on a sleep schedule. It will make for a happier baby and make you happier because you'll be able to sleep. Venting is fine. Parenting is 24/7 do not pretend that you can do it all. You will be a happier wife, mother and human by making sure u r taking care of yourself.
Why would you blame your husband? Were you not there? Did you not help conceive them?
I would suggest that you talk to your doctor and get on medication. If not, you need to leave and join the other deadbeat moms and dads who couldn't handle raising a family.
Hello.
thanks for the comment.
i did want kids at first...like after we have a nice house, my husband finds a good job, etc. but we had kids before we could have any of those.
maybe i am a deadbeat mom...that's why im trying to seek help...guess posting here wasn't such a good idea idk.
a phn will be coming over today, hopefully she'll have some solid advice for a ** up human being like me.
It took courage to admit it. Keep seeking help. it will get better
You really need to find relief for the pent up stress and anxiety. You feelings are very normal and women find relief in a variety of different ways