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Mean wife?
My wife and I had a major fight months ago. She told my daughter in front of me she is only with me because of her. We made up after a few days and things were good
Two eeeks ago we had a major fight and she told me again. Days later she made up and said that it's not true. One more year and my daughter is off to collage. I believe this is in her head to do
I am a good husband. I clean. Do laundry. Don't drink . I even massage her to sleep most nights.
I paid all the bills for twenty years but recently took a pay cut. Now she pays at least half Its tight. But I do my best
I think when the time is right she will fly. Why would she say it twice. And once to my daughter
Your wife is a **. theres no way around that simple fact. she a **.
Wow. Your wife does not appreciate you nearly as much as she should. I feel that some time away from you would make her realize how lucky she is. Not every women is as lucky to find a man that is willing to do so much. I wonder what more does she want? I think that maybe she just isn't happy with herself and she's taking it out on you.
That woman you married is not just a mean **, she's a crazy one. Vacillating from liking you to not liking you, from criticizing to making up. Cray-cray. Get out before she has the chance to really hurt you. Get out NOW! She's a huge **.
Man it sounds like your experience is just so like mine and many others.
I've been married 20yrs. First 5 maybe as much as 10 everything was great. Then for about 10 years until about 10 months ago I was pushed more and more distant. I did not realise it at first then realised there was no passion and it was cold I kind of thought what is wrong with me. I searched and went to self development courses and spoke with counsellors and psychologists trying to fond out what was wrong with me.
I felt depressed. I researched suicide. Seriously considered jumping off a cliff. Even looked into how high it needed to be and make sure no trees to soften the fall. Scouted the area. Problem was every time I drove and then walked that remote area, I felt great. I loved the wilderness walking.
Jan this year, it was like a light switch. Nothing wrong with me. I'm pretty normal and my reactions to her freezing me out all pretty normal.
The realisation that "not me" it was just so good. I moved into another bed room. I stopped having **. I made sure I never bad mouthed her. Always pleasant. Always complemented her on her clothes, hair whatever.
She has started to think, I think, That maybe it's her.
I'm now in a good head space and if she does not want me then I'm now OK to chuck it in and divorce.
Maybe she will regret it. I know I will be really sad but I do not wish to stay in a cold distant in emotional in romantic relationship. I want to kiss someone who wants to be kissed. I want to hold and hug someone who wants to be held. I want to ** someone who wants to be **.
I told her this and said she's got space now but the day will come when I just move on out. She can keep the house (I paid for) and the car and whatever. I've chucked out most of old junk & old clothes. I've packed one carton of personal memorabilia. I've photographed the photo albums and made copies of all the family digital photos so I can move out easily with all my stuff in my car in one go
She said those things with that audience to hurt you. She did it intentionally. Why? Because she's hurting, and she's able to convince herself that you're to blame for it. I don't know why she's hurting, and you probably don't know either. In fact, SHE may not even know. But it's always easier to lay blame on someone close at hand than it is to locate the actual source, or -- heaven forfend -- admit to ourselves that we are the source of our own trouble and pain. The fact that she keeps "making up" would seem to indicate that she's aware that she is causing a part of the difficulty. I would suggest going to see a marital counselor or therapist and making a concerted effort to determine what's going on and why, and then how you can both correct it. Together. It seems unlikely that seeking professional help would make things worse for you, and the possibility actually exists that it could make things markedly better. You both seem to want to do that -- make things better -- and so this may accomplish the desired result. I will pray for both of you, and for your family. Be well.
Let her go - you deserve better