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He wants her badly
I have a best friend of 2 years, who is madly in love with my sister. He's about 30 years old, and she is turning 17 in May. I'm the older sister at 22 years old, and genuinely worry about my sister's safety. This guy is obsessed with her. And i truly mean OBSESSED.
He tells me all the time that she's gorgeous, wants her phone number, wants to go out on dates with her, and "treat her like a queen". He's always talking about her, and stalks her social media. But my sister isn't interested at all. She says he's old enough to be her uncle, and that she could do better. Honestly, she is probably correct.
Though he seems to care about her a great deal, i'm worried that his obsession might drive him to do something he'll regret. I can't say for sure if he's the type of person to do that. But my biggest fear is definitely that he wants to use her, and throw her away like garbage.
So i wanted to ask: should i be worried or not? And if i should, would it be best to loose touch with him? If it means keeping my sister safe, I'll do it.
Yes you should be worried, he is 30, she is 16. He doesn’t care about legal age limits and is old enough to know better. STOP talking to him.
Have her start calling him Roy Moore. See if that sinks in.
Your sister needs to block this guy in every way possible and you never leave him alone with her. If he is really a good friend you should easily be able to be direct to him that he is to back completely off.
Is there a dad or older brother you can turn to? Im a protective dad myself. It would be my privilege to straighten out any one I needed to for my kids.
This obsession is inappropriate if not illegal (depending on the area you live). It's not hard to figure out that if he likes her for her looks, he has one thing in mind. Tell him point blank that you talked to her and she isn't interested in older men, tell him she has a love interest around her age and would never ever consider dating him. You need to be brutally honest so there is no doubt in his head about this. If he then continues to stalk him it's time to be harsher, tell him to stay away and that if he doesn't you're calling the police. Good for you to be concerned for her, keep protecting her.
Stalk her*