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I truly HATE my step daughter
My dh and I have been together for 9 yrs, married for 6 yrs. He has 2 kids, a son and a daughter from a previous marriage in which these kids BM died. She is now 21 and he is 19. They were 5 and 7 when she died. They are both disrespectful and just do what they want to do. My dh has over compensated for her death since it happened. They will not cook or clean unless told to do so and when they do, they do it when they get ready. My sd tries to come in between me and my dh and he lets her get away with everything. She walks around my house and won’t say a word to me, not even excuse me if she needs to get by. I feel like a prisoner in my own home which we just brought last year. This is my house and I told my husband that they need to go live in our other house because they can’t be respectful. My ss punch a whole in the wall because he got angry and my dh didn’t do a ** thing. No consequences. My dh is ill right now and says he is trying to say calm but in reality it seems like he is afraid to say something to these adult kids who do what they want in my house. Sd is in college but is home for the summer and ss is here doing absolutely nothing. I feel like my hands are tied because my dh won’t let me put them out. I am so tired of this 9 yr turmoil that I am feeling because of his spoiled disrespectful free loading kids but I love my dh. I have problems with ss but nothing like his evil sister. I’m so tired.
Hay dad im keep look for you dad its not even fair dad i luv you dad hugs you and im put taps on dayb m not even mess dad im actualy serious dad hugs you dad xxxxx
Maybe talk to your husband about this and give him an ultimatum so thta he has to do something about it. tell him after 9 years you are tired of dealing with this emotional stress and its just not fair. OR you could try to talk to the step daughter and try to bond with her. she might still be angry that she doesnt have her mother and so she is missing that mother figure in her life. talk to her and make her feel as if you want to be there for her and can only do so if she cooperates. tell her you want to improve your relationship with her for the sake of your ill husband. try doing activities with just the two of you like going shopping or to the spa and try to bond and maybe she will see that she doesnt have to make your life miserable and that having a step mother isnt so bad.
Yes I agree with the daughter thing. Maybe she hasn't dealt with the death of her mother since it can be a traumatic experience and maybe that's why she has always acted out, like trying to get between you and your husband. Maybe by talking to her, she will realise that you have her best interest at heart and you can try to build a relationship with her. You should also try your best to get rid of those hatred feelings towards her as well. I believe it is possible to mend and build your relationship with your step children.