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"Who is Your Daddy" Problem
My daughter just had her second child, a healthy baby boy. I'm really happy for her and her husband. Here's the thing: even from the moment she gave birth, and I was there, I had secret doubts whether the child was her husband's. My daughter and her husband are very fair-skinned Caucasian, the types that will burn if they are in the sun for more than 10 minutes. That is, very, very white.
My daughter's new baby is darker skinned, basically an olive color. It looks nothing like their previous kid. I mentioned this to my husband, and he said to keep quiet about it. Well, as my daughter started posting pics on fb of her new baby, all of the aunts and uncles in the family started messaging me privately with the same suspicions: that the kid isn't fathered by my daughter's husband. Everyone is like "That can't be [her husband's]." So it's not just me who thinks this way.
I don't know what to say to my daughter. Do I mention to her that everyone in the family thinks that her husband is not the father? Do I just straight-up ask her "Who were you ** last year?" Do I keep my mouth shut and just let there be the eternal doubt that runs through the extended family about the paternity? I'm so unsure about what to do. Any advice would be welcome. This has me stressed out.
It's none of your business. She is a grown adult. Plus her husband may already know, if there was any hanky panky.
Daddy its your son and i do hope you find this. I love you daddy.
Hay dad and were you go dad i luv you dad im you little girl dad xxxxx
If you see this please respond. Dad off little princess in casts...
My brother is a bit darker than me, but he's clearly from our parents. It's no big deal. It happens. Be happy.
It's might be jaundiced and just looks olive skinned lol seriously though my parents are both white and my sisters are olive skinned they def my sisters coz they look like my dad..it does happen. It's not a far stretch that there are dark skinned people on her husbands side is it? The truth will out at some point if it isn't...time will tell. Or get your daughter and alone with the baby..start cooing over it etc then exclaim you can't figure out who the baby looks like...she may tell you there and then to get it off her chest if it's not her husbands..she will know it'll come out and would probably be wanting to tell someone ..just make sure you set the mood right.
Your problem is not the paternity of your grandchild. It's not that your daughter may have been flinging. Here's your problem: if you ask your daughter who the father is and you're right, she's going to lie to you, and if you ask your daughter who the father is an you're wrong, she's going to be hurt. The only way to avoid both those painful (to you or to her) outcomes is to say nothing.....to anybody.
This happens a lot. I guarantee a DNA test would reveal that your daughter's husband is the father.
That was my thought exactly. It’s very likely that it’s a recessive gene on either or both sides. I happened to be the youngest in my family and they are as white as the proverbial driven snow. I look… “Italian“ Is what strangers will often say. We had a paternity test after my parents were gone, I have the exact same genes as my brothers. Go figure
How about single the kid out. When they come over to your house, set a separate table just for them
My brother's kid has cystic fibrosis. It is genetic.
Everyone on our side got tested and no one has it. On the wife's side no evidence either. I suspect a little straying
You should stay out of it. That's easy enough. But here's the hard part: you can't talk about it. Not to anyone. Because if your casual observations about the child's paternity got back to your daughter and son-in-law, much damage would be done. Much damage. So ** out and pipe down. It's actually none of your business anyway.
I'd say its none of your buissiness. If they are happy, leave it at that.
If both parents are happy what the ** others are thinking is immaterial, as simple as that....
DNA test?
I have a brother who is Irish white and so am I, but our sister is darker skinned and tans like cocoa. It happens. Leave them alone