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"Who is Your Daddy" Problem
My daughter just had her second child, a healthy baby boy. I'm really happy for her and her husband. Here's the thing: even from the moment she gave birth, and I was there, I had secret doubts whether the child was her husband's. My daughter and her husband are very fair-skinned Caucasian, the types that will burn if they are in the sun for more than 10 minutes. That is, very, very white.
My daughter's new baby is darker skinned, basically an olive color. It looks nothing like their previous kid. I mentioned this to my husband, and he said to keep quiet about it. Well, as my daughter started posting pics on fb of her new baby, all of the aunts and uncles in the family started messaging me privately with the same suspicions: that the kid isn't fathered by my daughter's husband. Everyone is like "That can't be [her husband's]." So it's not just me who thinks this way.
I don't know what to say to my daughter. Do I mention to her that everyone in the family thinks that her husband is not the father? Do I just straight-up ask her "Who were you ** last year?" Do I keep my mouth shut and just let there be the eternal doubt that runs through the extended family about the paternity? I'm so unsure about what to do. Any advice would be welcome. This has me stressed out.
Ask the Husband if the dark skin runs in his family and add in the "because it sure isn't from our side". You could ask her and she lie and then you're still in the same boat. If he questions it could lead to a DNA test and if it's his, all good. If it's not tell him to run, run fast.
I think you can probably tactfully address the situation privately, but don't freak out by what you might learn. You might find out more about her ** life than you really want to know.
If they're happy then its none of your business.
Too many people confuse ** and love, ** is ** and love is love 2 totally and completely different things, and if your daughter got a little strange no biggie if your son in law doesn't have a problem with it.
If there is an issue there, it's for your daughter and son-in-law to sort out. The rest of the family should assume the best, operate on that assumption, and leave it alone.
Check out pictures of both families ancestors. Might be a ** in woodpile.
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