Gay but conservative
I am a crazy mixed up person. I'm a 38 y/o man, I identify as gay in my brain but I still find women incredibly sexy. I have a girlfriend 20 years older than me and I'm pretty open about it with her. I had a gay experience when I was 12 but thought it was too weird for me and refrained from acting it out since. I don't tell anybody I'm gay except a few people.
I simultaneously am concerned about the direction of how we handle homosexuality in our culture. This is also something I don't tell many people. I think it's great that it's accepted by most people, but the push for the normalization of it has it's own set of problems. It concerns me that in some places people born as men are allowed to walk into the ladies room, for instance. Seeing two men kiss publicly is strange and gross to me. I also don't like how people who reinforce family values and traditional forms of marriage are being labeled as bigots and homophobes. They are not without their points. It's just as bad as calling a gay person a f*****.
I think we have yet to strike the correct balance. I think homosexuality shouldn't be condemned or celebrated. It just is. I also think people who are confused about their feelings should be given space before they are forced to take on a label that might dramatically change their lifestyle. I would love it if homophobic people took responsibility for their gay bashing, and gay people took more responsibility for things as well. In the past 40 years gay people have been most responsible for the spread of AIDS all over the world, changed the institution of marriage which has been in place for most all of human history, and have advocated for people who have had a s** change to enter a new bathroom. Can you see why some people would be concerned about the rapid development of this? I think everybody needs to take responsibility for how their actions affect the world at large and have some respect and listen to the other side. Because, in a kind of way, I am on both sides