I am a 40 year old married guy who came out to one of my best friends a bi a couple of years ago. I have always found him attractive and he has always been single for long periods and never had a long term relationship leading me to suspect he might be gay. Early on it our friendship, before I met my wife, I suspected he liked me but I never discussed it with him.
Recently we were getting drunk in London and we were talking about his orientation and he described himself as 80% straight and 20% bi. I admitted that this turned me on a bit and I hit on him. He turned me down and said he didn't look at me that way. we are still friends and his attributes the event/chat that night to too much drink. I am really hurt though and I want him so much.