Wife lost weight and I hate it
I’ve always likes fatter women, not chubby, not SSBBW, but the middle road BBW. When I first started dating my wife she was about 230lbs, 5’3”, and nicely fat with big b****. We talked openly about such things and she was very happy and excited to finally be with someone who liked her fat. She had always been with guys that forced her to diet, degraded her, etc. She told me that she had gotten down to 150-ish lbs by basically not eating and doing cardio every day, but she was unhappy because she couldn’t eat what she wanted. Finally one day she snapped, ate some fattening food, and poof the diet was over.
She was so beautiful and fat and we both liked it and could talk openly about it. S e x was awesome, and one day I was on top and she said “grab my fat” and I nearly lost control right there. Over time she would ask if I wanted her fatter and how fat she could get, and I said no limit, so exciting.
We got married she was about 240lba with huge F-cup b o o b s, the kind you put your head on and are instantly asleep. She loves her b o o b stoo so it was all good. After we were married she got up to a macron 260lbs in late 2019, and then slowly leveled off at about 250lbs. We get along well, it isn’t just fat, food, and s**, okay? But physical attraction is a big part of relationships.
It was great until she went to the doctor for BC pills and basically he yelled at her for a while about how fat she was. She left in tears (and no BC pills) and said she needed to lose some weight. I thought “ok, sure, 20 or 30lbs would be ok”. Well, she went full crazy and in six months lost 60lbs. Her b**** are half the size they were before. We were both so excited when she hit size 20 jeans, as she’d been stuck in 18s for so long. Now she is a 14. Her shirts are so small it’s like a kid’s shirt. Every time I fold her laundry I get p***** off.
This isn’t what I wanted to marry. I wanted the fat girl with huge b o o b s, not the everyday suburbs housewife was-hot-in-high-school-but-put-on-30-lbs-after-having-two-kids look.
Now - I get it - her body, her choice. Her health, living longer, not having back pain at the end of the day, being able to walk up flight of stairs without panting, etc. she is happy now at her weight. We have had some “conversations” about this issue. She said she is never gaining the weight back. It’s over.
But from my view, I’m p*****. I married the fat fiel with big b o o b a and now that was taken from me, very shortly after we met and married. I can’t get over it. And I’m not attracted to her anymore in the same way. Now she looks “good” to me, her b o o b s are a 42DD now (down from 44 F) so I’m a tight shirt she can look very hot. But it just isn’t the same for me and every moment of every day when I see her I have this anger. She plateaued at about 190lbs (188 the other day) is still trying to lose more. Her diet is basically the starvation method. She eats two eggs for breakfast and no lunch, and then some dinner. She says she still loves food like before just doesn’t eat as much. She asked to go to a buffet and I asked “why? What would be the point?”
Again, I know. Her body, her choice, her happiness, her health. And I support that part. But I’m still angry as f * c k about those f * ing 60lbs. It’s not the body I wanted, was attracted too, and married. I’m venting here because there is no where else to go. For her, this is a done and buried subject. We basically just never talk about fat, or food, or anything. S e x Life is basically over as well because we would talk about being fat and getting fatter as s e x talk, but without that might as well talk about work and the weather outside. If you don’t have this kink you won’t understand. I know someone will hate this post. Maybe someone else will understand. FML.
So, yeah, great, wonderful. You lost two more pounds and ate bird seed for lunch? Fantastic. Way to go babe. Proud of you. 🙄🙄🙄
Tell her to get fat again or divorce the b****. Fat girls who purposely lose weight during a relationship without their partner's approval, are extremely selfish... They should recognize that physical attraction is a big part of a relationship because without it, there is no worthwhile s**. Women regardless of their size and weight, NEVER get it and probably NEVER will that guys are extremely visual. Guys need visual stimulation to keep their s** drive hitting on all cylinders and that drastically changing that visual aspect has consequences that are many times detrimental to an intimate relationship. Now it is her body and she has the right to do with it as she pleases so you are kind of at a crossroads.
Don't worry, she'll gain it back. They always do. Just be patient.
People change. That's the hard part about relationships. If you're that happy you should tell her that you consider her weight loss a problem and see where it goes. Be prepared to leave though.
Meant to say unhappy
You're a lucky guy to find a wife that has accepted her body and who she is. Most women would rather cut off a limb or be blind than be 400 pounds. That's how insane our fatophobic society has made them. Women tend to be emotionally unbalanced to begin with, add the body image issues they suffer from into the mix and it's a small wonder that mental illness is so rampant in the US.
Disregard the above post.
My wife is 5'3" and was 300lbs when we married 10 years. After two kids she gained about 70lbs. She looked amazing and the s** was incredible...Then because of pressure from her family she decided to lose weight and lost 200lbs...I was supportive but inside I was far from happy....Fortunately like most fat people once she went off the diet she started to gain weight again...At first she fought it and was worried about regaining the weight but ultimately as she slowly gained more and more, she realized it was a losing battle. That was 5 years ago...As of today she has gained all the weight back plus another 40lbs. She is tipping the scales at around 410lbs. She no longer gives a crap about her weight and has resigned herself to being a big fat wife...I couldn't be happier and told her so with a kiss, a dozen roses and her favorite carrot cake with cream cheese icing...
Life is good.
You're a lucky guy to find a wife that has accepted her body and who she is. Most women would rather cut off a limb or be blind than be 400 pounds. That's how insane our fatophobic society has made them. Women tend to be emotionally unbalanced to begin with, add the body image issues they suffer from into the mix and it's a small wonder that mental illness is so rampant in the US
You are so lucky. My wife has yo-yo dieted her way up to around 400 pounds and I love her huge soft body, but she just won't stop trying to lose weight. I wish she would just accept herself being so big, so we can enjoy it together. I know she would be happier too if she stopped fighting it and let herself eat the way she wanted. I can only hope she eventually gives up. I know if she does she'll be over 500 in no time.
Chances are your wife will never be happy with her weight, sorry to say. Women's heads are filled with body image nonsense by the diet industry, the media, the bogus medical community, family, friends and society in general from the time they can walk until the day they die. I'll bet that over 80% of the women in the US hate their body in some way, shape or form regardless of the weight, height or shape and it's not about to change anytime soon. It plays h*** with us guys because you never know what kind of psycho thing they are going to do to themselves.
Exactly. The body image thing that women put themselves through is insane. My wife was a gorgeous 350lbs when we married. She comes from a fat family and was always the chubby girl among her friends. She fought her weight all her life. I loved her body. It was perfect. Huge b****, wide hips, a big bubble ass and beautiful fat legs...Then when she got pregnant, her a****** doctor actually put her on a diet to lose weight. It was crazy. Everytime we went for a check up the Dr. would shame her for not losing weight. She tried really hard but through the entire pregnancy she only lost about 10 or 12 pounds. After our daughter was born naturally with no problems whatsoever, my wife decide to lose more weight and over a period of two years she lost 140lbs by eating almost nothing and exercising like a maniac... It was like H*** and we fought constantly and even separated for a time. We are currently back together but I don't know for how long. I simply cannot live with her body dismorphia and her psychotic need to be thin. For me it is truely off putting. The other day she told me that wants to have another baby. I told her not until she gets her body image issues under control and I suggested that se seek counciling. She said no and said that she will do it with or without me.. I will not stand for that kind of ultimatum and I will be gone as soon as I can find another place to live that is close to my work and suitable for me and my daughter to live. Yes I will be taking our child with me when I go because IMHO her body craziness has rendered her an unfit parent.
Me and my son are both 400 pluse. I'm 68 he is 47 we both love being fat. Hope your wife gets big agin.