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I’m beginning to regret moving in with my boyfriend
Honestly our relationship is pretty fresh but i really love him a lot and we are super compatible in many many ways
we moved in together pretty quickly, and after a few weeks i decided to bring my cat over too. when he first met my cat he was super excited, but over a week has passed and my cat hasn’t warmed up to him very much so my BF keeps calling him mean things and saying he hates him
i initially assumed he was joking (because of how happy he was about the cat before) but after a while i asked him if he really felt that way and he said that he did. the fact that he doesn’t like my cat and is mean to him, even if it’s just verbally, made me scared that one day he would ask me to choose between him or the cat. so i straight up told him, “i dont think you would ever say this, but if you ever made me choose between you or the cat, i would choose the cat”
understandably, he got upset, but i didnt mean it in the way of prioritizing the cat over him. my cat is incredibly important to me, he was basically my only reason to not attempt suicide multiple times, but even then i understand the difference in value between a human life and an animal life. i just wanted to convey that if he ever asked me to choose, it would indicate that he didn’t respect just how much my cat means to me, and that would also mean not respecting my feelings and values, so i would choose the cat
even after explaining this to him, he is still very upset. and i do understand why he feels that way. but it makes me regret moving in with him because when he’s mad he basically doesn’t give a ** about my feelings anymore and says things he knows will upset me and does things he knows i dislike, like playing music to fall asleep (i have insomnia and prefer silence). i can’t ask him to move out though because he basically got rid of a majority of his possessions and left a pretty good job and his entire family behind to move in with me, and he doesnt have much money so its not like he can afford to find a different place anyway
so now im lying on the hard vinyl floors of my office at 5:45AM trying to get even a sliver of sleep before work at 9AM because he’s in bed playing music on his phone and it keeps me awake. i paid for the house and the bed and everything, yet im forced to sleep on the floor….
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