I am in a verbally abusive relationship but I am afraid to leave because I was just diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis and I've been having trouble walking. I have no job and don't have my own health insurance without my husbands. He told me I'd better get myself well because he sure isn't going to take care of me. Also, we have a 3 year old son.

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  • Waiting for her to die will last a lot longer than a divorce, she could live to old age with high blood pressure. But I sure can't judge, I never should have even married this guy he was obviously incapable of treating anyone nicely, even basic stuff like going to a restaurant or being in public ends up in embarrassment. And I've stayed with him for 6 years and had a kid. :( I just kept thinking I didn't want to deal with ending it. But when I was injured and in his care it was terrible. I thought at any minute he was going to go ballistic. I'm getting better at least for now. Just think, what happens if you get hurt and you are in her hands depending on her to bring you medicine.... some things are worse than being alone. I have found a nice guy in this area to fantasize about. Nothing will come of it most likely but it is helping me imagine a different life and I'm actually making some progress in the fear department. I can see why people have affairs with that in mind, but I haven't. I hope you are able to envision a different life for yourself that is worth going through the trouble of divorce.

  • Second commentor here. I can't leave. I just don't have it in me. I went through a divorce 17 years ago and I can't do it again. I am just waiting for her to die. She is about 50 lbs over weight and has high blood pressure. I don't know what is wrong with me but I just cant leave.

  • first commentor: if you aren't very drastically disabled you have to wait a year of being disabled for you can claim.. but thank you I am keeping that in mind.

    Second commentor, If you are going through emotionally what I'm going through in any way I feel for you, I really do. I hope you leave her and find someone sweet.

  • Hey I have a good job and make fairly good money. $70,000 a year. My wife is an emotional terrorist. Why don't you come and let me take care of you and our spouses can hook up. Sounds like they deserve each other.

  • If you've worked at a job at all in the past, you may be able to qualify for disability benefits through Social Security, whether or not you stay with him. Maybe that will give you enough breathing room to make a decision.

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