Frustrated & Confused

I’m a married man of 15 years and I love my wife. But due to circumstances beyond her control the intimacy is dead. I have always loved women of all shapes and sizes and have been faithful to my wife. But in the last year or so I find myself getting infatuated with women I have no business being so with.

I generally like women my own age 38 but I recently met a woman (25) and I can’t stop thinking about her. She actually does some freelance work for me and that’s how I found myself in this position.

I’m around beautiful women on a regular basis so it’s not that this girl is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen but she is a total package. Good looking, sense of humor, same taste in music and beautiful on the inside. She’s also mature for her age group.

A couple of weeks ago we had to go out of town on some business. One night after work I asked her if she wanted to go hang out for a bit. We spent all night just talking until the early morning hours.

Now she already had an idea that I think she’s great but I made sure I told her so there was no confusion. At this point she tells me she is in love with her bf of 7yrs and I should have found her 3yrs earlier. I walked her back to her room and ended it with a hug and kiss on the cheek.

It was the best night I’ve had in a long time!

The next day after work I asked if we could do it again and we did. We just sat and talked until the sun came up. Another great night!

Problem is I can’t get her out of my head. I only see her once a month so this is killing me. Part of me wants to play the friend roll and see where this goes and hope I’m in the right place at the right time. Or I may discover she’s really not what I thought she was.

I understand she’s in love with her bf but if she didn’t have any interest would she have spent both nights with me? Or is it just my male DNA telling me there’s more there than there actually is?

I’m so confused! I want to see where this leads but maybe it’s just wishful thinking.

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  • There is more than one way to have a relationship. It's a 3 some. Or something. Enjoy it no matter how far it goes.

  • your s** hormones are shaking up ,,,,they are not giving you the clue either...38 , deserted , dead intimacy, all this leads to the fact that you want to give her a ****, thats it .....and thats when she love somebody,,,,go gift ur wife a lingerie,,..she will give u what u r looking for............crap

  • Maybe you should try and put that kind of thought and energy into spending time with your wife and reconnect with her? If there are circumstances beyond her control for the intamacy issues does that mean the love and respect has gone out of the marriage to? At least have the decency to end your marriage if youre not willing to put any work into it before you go looking for something else. You loved your wife very much at one point or you wouldnt have married her. If you cant find that again with her at least remember the part of your vows about respect, and have enough respect for your wife as well as yourself to not drag all of you through a sorded affair that will more than likely end up in heart break for your family. Good Luck.

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